So my parents just told me that I'm not allowed to have beer in the house because my brother has a drinking problem...

If you are paying rent, you a legal tenant and your parents no right to restrict legal activities especially if they take place in your room which you are presumably renting.

1) That's not what's going on with this guy, but in that situation, that would be manly...again though, that's not what is going on with this guy.

2) Very few people who have a "drinking problem" can contain it. Also, there's a difference between drinking a lot for "a spell" and being an alcoholic.

3) There are no problems with alcoholism as a disease model. From the CDC on down, alcoholism is recognized as a disease. You are just flat wrong on this point.

I hear you man! I'm a father and my kids are still living under my roof! They're full grown and basically unappreciative little leeches. I have to pay the mortgage and put food on the table and all they do is complain. I don't have any privacy and haven't had any freedom from the little parasites for over two decades. Why do I have to compromise and suffer just because they're too lazy and entitled to move out? Why is it the responsible people that have to sacrifice all the time!?

Wolf's Bane wrote:

Alcoholism is a serious issue, one that destroys lives and is very hard to beat. Your brother probably has a serious problem that could ruin his life. I get it, you can control your drinking, its lame if you have to go out to a bar or restaurant just to have a drink after work. But your brother is family. Does your desire to have a few drinks really trump your brother's well being? I assume you're like early 20s. Look, you'll move out soon right. Until then, because of your brother's issues, you should just not keep alcohol at the house. Even if you don't like your brother that much, you should do it because its the right thing to do.

This !

Your biggest problem is you're 21+ and still living with your parents.

And yes, there are a lot of situation where people get rewarded for doing a sh!tty job. Mainly by others giving them less work to do.

Families dynamics are weird especially with drug and alcohol abuse. It usually involves enabling women/mothers who are given importance in their life by taking caring of someone.

further confirmation wrote:

What a shock to find that LR is mostly populated by people who have no understanding of how difficult it is to get out on your own in the modern economy where every college grad doesn’t have a $50K job waiting for them.

Yup, it can be difficult. If you are stuck living under your parents roof, you need to abide by their rules.

As a fellow basement dweller, I understand how hard it is OP. If you can, join the military. You can drink all you want in the barracks. That's what I would do if my parent's would let me join.

letsrun basement dweller wrote:

As a fellow basement dweller, I understand how hard it is OP. If you can, join the military. You can drink all you want in the barracks. That's what I would do if my parent's would let me join.

If your parents let you join? You don't need their permission if your old enough.

A. M. E. R. I. C. A wrote:

Bs b.s. wrote:

Why are you living with your parents if you are a grown man?

Do you know how much rent is now and days?

In most places, slightly higher than historical averages when adjusted for inflation. Why do you ask?

It might seem counter-intuitive to the OP and some others, but why not just give up the alcohol altogether? You will run better, have fewer relationship problems, be more successful in your career, will never have to worry about finding a sober driver to take you place or getting a DUI - among many other advantages - including perhaps having your brother live another 60 or 80 years instead of only 20 or maybe as little as 5. Sure, takes some discipline and sacrifice, but if those are strange to you, how do you expect to succeed in running?

Speaking from personal experience, I believe it was through God's providence that I have never touched alcohol. I grew up in the Soviet Union in the 80s. Drinking was prevalent. But somehow - even without any religion - I was able to see the consequences plainly while finding any advantages not very appealing. I recall my introduction to the graph of y = sin(x) - my mother came home and told me about how a drunk fellow was "walking along a sinusoid" at a bus stop. When I joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, my commitment to abstain from alcohol was upgraded from being just something I thought was a good thing to being a religious principle - a commitment I made to God. I can tell by looking at what happened to my high school classmates who did not live by this principle of the difference that this made in my life - happy marriage, successful career, children that are motivated to achieve, and running performances - while by some standards not stellar (though still faster than most people on this board) - that were much better than they would have been otherwise.

Well, I don't know if all that's true as I've quit drinking entirely and I haven't seen all these benefits. I suspect a lot of that's in your head.

You need to get out of your parents basement and find yourself a job. Then think about moving out. It's their house and their rules. If you don't like it get out and grow up.

Paul said to not cause a brother to stumble as much as it is in your power to do so. He also said that it is the weaker in faith that stumble over more things. This might be a bummer for you, but if you do all that you can to help him and it does help him, it’ll be worth it I’m sure

Maybe think about someone else for a change, guy. Imagine trying to quit something when its right there in front of you every time you go to open the fridge. Its not about you, its about supporting your brother so quit acting like a 14 year old. Also, move out dude.

Their house , their rules, move out of it’s a big deal.

You show show some support to your brother, being alcohol dependent is absolutely no joke.

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Too obvious, goading us with the "I'm a grown man living at home" thing.

Also, few people are as huge of assholes as your post makes you sound.

blamb61 wrote:

letsrun basement dweller wrote:

As a fellow basement dweller, I understand how hard it is OP. If you can, join the military. You can drink all you want in the barracks. That's what I would do if my parent's would let me join.

If your parents let you join? You don't need their permission if your old enough.

No, I can't do it. My mom told me no, when I asked her.

guess it's my problem somehow wrote:

So my parents just told me that I'm not allowed to have beer in the house because my brother has a drinking problem...

So?

unhelpful guy wrote:

Your fault for living with your parents. It sucks, but their house, their rules.

This!!!!

And, if you are able to drink, that means you are over 21.

Move on, loser.