I've caught my gf lying and changing her story multiple times. How big of red flag?

30:45X-C1978 wrote:

Similar Story-- I have a "female friend" who seemingly likes to retaliate.

On my way home driving 930 miles from Birmingham AL recently, while talking on the phone to her, I had to take a call from a friend (I was waiting for his call). I have not spoken to him in 5+ years. I told her I will call her back as soon as I can. Well, the call from my friend lasted 45 minutes, I had to get gas, then I hit 20 minutes of stopped traffic and did not want to call her until the traffic cleared. I even took a pic for her of the accident as I sat there waiting to go.

She texted me and told me something like "that's a long phone call" as if to act pissed.

Right then I was calling her. Well....she deflected like 5 of my calls, and sent me several nasty texts, cancelling a date we had the day after I got home and then tried to make me drive 600 miles (from 9PM to 6AM) in punishment mode; not being "allowed" to talk to her throughout the 9-hour remainder of my drive. Anyway, about an hour later, I finally got a hold of her, calmed her down and we had a decent couple days after I got home.

The next week, she did something similar (retaliate) again,. So, I let it go this time without doing all the dirty "fixing work". I wanted to see what would happen. Would she become part of the solution? Or would she be part of the problem? I did not call/text her to smooth over her issues; and she did not call/text me neither.

So, I am moving on.

My advice is.....in cases like yours (and mine) is to, MOVE ON!

30:45X-C1978 wrote:

Similar Story-- I have a "female friend" who seemingly likes to retaliate.

On my way home driving 930 miles from Birmingham AL recently, while talking on the phone to her, I had to take a call from a friend (I was waiting for his call). I have not spoken to him in 5+ years. I told her I will call her back as soon as I can. Well, the call from my friend lasted 45 minutes, I had to get gas, then I hit 20 minutes of stopped traffic and did not want to call her until the traffic cleared. I even took a pic for her of the accident as I sat there waiting to go.

She texted me and told me something like "that's a long phone call" as if to act pissed.

Right then I was calling her. Well....she deflected like 5 of my calls, and sent me several nasty texts, cancelling a date we had the day after I got home and then tried to make me drive 600 miles (from 9PM to 6AM) in punishment mode; not being "allowed" to talk to her throughout the 9-hour remainder of my drive. Anyway, about an hour later, I finally got a hold of her, calmed her down and we had a decent couple days after I got home.

The next week, she did something similar (retaliate) again,. So, I let it go this time without doing all the dirty "fixing work". I wanted to see what would happen. Would she become part of the solution? Or would she be part of the problem? I did not call/text her to smooth over her issues; and she did not call/text me neither.

So, I am moving on.

My advice is.....in cases like yours (and mine) is to, MOVE ON!

30:45X-C1978 wrote:

Similar Story-- I have a "female friend" who seemingly likes to retaliate.

On my way home driving 930 miles from Birmingham AL recently, while talking on the phone to her, I had to take a call from a friend (I was waiting for his call). I have not spoken to him in 5+ years. I told her I will call her back as soon as I can. Well, the call from my friend lasted 45 minutes, I had to get gas, then I hit 20 minutes of stopped traffic and did not want to call her until the traffic cleared. I even took a pic for her of the accident as I sat there waiting to go.

She texted me and told me something like "that's a long phone call" as if to act pissed.

Right then I was calling her. Well....she deflected like 5 of my calls, and sent me several nasty texts, cancelling a date we had the day after I got home and then tried to make me drive 600 miles (from 9PM to 6AM) in punishment mode; not being "allowed" to talk to her throughout the 9-hour remainder of my drive. Anyway, about an hour later, I finally got a hold of her, calmed her down and we had a decent couple days after I got home.

The next week, she did something similar (retaliate) again,. So, I let it go this time without doing all the dirty "fixing work". I wanted to see what would happen. Would she become part of the solution? Or would she be part of the problem? I did not call/text her to smooth over her issues; and she did not call/text me neither.

So, I am moving on.

My advice is.....in cases like yours (and mine) is to, MOVE ON!

30:45X-C1978 wrote:

Similar Story-- I have a "female friend" who seemingly likes to retaliate.

On my way home driving 930 miles from Birmingham AL recently, while talking on the phone to her, I had to take a call from a friend (I was waiting for his call). I have not spoken to him in 5+ years. I told her I will call her back as soon as I can. Well, the call from my friend lasted 45 minutes, I had to get gas, then I hit 20 minutes of stopped traffic and did not want to call her until the traffic cleared. I even took a pic for her of the accident as I sat there waiting to go.

She texted me and told me something like "that's a long phone call" as if to act pissed.

Right then I was calling her. Well....she deflected like 5 of my calls, and sent me several nasty texts, cancelling a date we had the day after I got home and then tried to make me drive 600 miles (from 9PM to 6AM) in punishment mode; not being "allowed" to talk to her throughout the 9-hour remainder of my drive. Anyway, about an hour later, I finally got a hold of her, calmed her down and we had a decent couple days after I got home.

The next week, she did something similar (retaliate) again,. So, I let it go this time without doing all the dirty "fixing work". I wanted to see what would happen. Would she become part of the solution? Or would she be part of the problem? I did not call/text her to smooth over her issues; and she did not call/text me neither.

So, I am moving on.

My advice is.....in cases like yours (and mine) is to, MOVE ON!

Glad I don't live near you wrote:

30:45X-C1978 wrote:

Similar Story-- I have a "female friend" who seemingly likes to retaliate.

On my way home driving 930 miles from Birmingham AL recently, while talking on the phone to her, I had to take a call from a friend (I was waiting for his call). I have not spoken to him in 5+ years. I told her I will call her back as soon as I can. Well, the call from my friend lasted 45 minutes, I had to get gas, then I hit 20 minutes of stopped traffic and did not want to call her until the traffic cleared. I even took a pic for her of the accident as I sat there waiting to go.

She texted me and told me something like "that's a long phone call" as if to act pissed.

Right then I was calling her. Well....she deflected like 5 of my calls, and sent me several nasty texts, cancelling a date we had the day after I got home and then tried to make me drive 600 miles (from 9PM to 6AM) in punishment mode; not being "allowed" to talk to her throughout the 9-hour remainder of my drive. Anyway, about an hour later, I finally got a hold of her, calmed her down and we had a decent couple days after I got home.

The next week, she did something similar (retaliate) again,. So, I let it go this time without doing all the dirty "fixing work". I wanted to see what would happen. Would she become part of the solution? Or would she be part of the problem? I did not call/text her to smooth over her issues; and she did not call/text me neither.

So, I am moving on.

My advice is.....in cases like yours (and mine) is to, MOVE ON!

So you drive and use your mobile phone at the same time? That'll get you a ban where I live and rightly so.

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/10/31/mobile-phone-truck-driver-who-killed-family-of-4-is-jailed-for-1/

Rupp fan wrote:

Flagpole wrote:Lying and dishonesty is a relationship killer. If your goal is to eventually marry this woman and/or have children and live with her, I would change that idea. You should run from this lying woman. You should want to respect the person you are with, and how can you respect her when she lies like that?

She is not reliable, and since she seems to lie about things big and small, she might be a serial liar or a sociopath.

If I were you, I would drop her like a bag of dirt.

Flagpole nailed it. A tendency to lie is the ultimate sign that someone is “evil” or whatever word you want to use. And there’s nothing you can do to fix the problem. This is coming from a guy who often gets made fun of for taking the lady’s side in these threads.

Run far away and never look back.