Keep us updated, good-looking shy guy !
Keep us updated, good-looking shy guy !
Still haven't done anything..really don't know what to do and it bothers me.
I see people posting that I'm wasting my time, or that I do this with every girl, that's not true. I actually really want to get to know this for whatever reason.
My thing is we could probably meet up now (in the summer), and if I DM'd her I really couldn't see her NOT responding. I just don't want to make it awkward next time I see her in person if she let's me off easy like "I'm not around this summer, etc."
idk..
MWRunner wrote:
My thing is we could probably meet up now (in the summer), and if I DM'd her I really couldn't see her NOT responding. I just don't want to make it awkward next time I see her in person if she let's me off easy like "I'm not around this summer, etc."
idk..
If she shows you the gate -which seems increasingly likely, given what a schlep you seem to be based on your posts- it will only be awkward next time you meet if youmake it so. Treat here like you would any casual acquaintance. You shouldn't act like her friend, nor should you cold-shoulder her. Just be civil give a nod or wave, and off you go. You're not even on her radar at this point, and after she rejects you she'll forget about it (and you) in a matter of days.
Is OP updated?
Dude, quit doing quantum mathematics in your head the next time you see a cute girl. Stop overthinking the situation. Don't even go down the DM route, that is beyond weak. Just walk up to her like a MAN and say:
"Hey, what's up" or
"What's up, I like your style" or
"I noticed that you're on the softball team...."
And, if she rejects you, so what, move on.
Or, I can make this crude:
Approaching and getting swiftly rejected is infinitely better than not approaching and not getting rejected.
First scenario shows you have balls and don’t give a damn. Second scenario shows you’re just a pu$sy scared of failure.
Stop being a pu$sy.
Bump because I want to know the end.
OP, did you see her lately?
Just go up and say hi to her and that you haven’t seen her around before. Put off a friendly vibe and just go with the flow. Then when you’ve broken the ice, say you have to go, but that she should come to a social thing you and your buds are throwing. Or maybe, you talk to her and there’s no vibe so you two just small chat before parting ways, but no big deal. This isn’t hard.
Think of approaching women like baseball. You get 10 at bats, but you can be happy knowing that you’ll log a hit 3-4 times within that span. Sometimes it’s a single or a double, but eventually you hit a homerun or a grand slam and you’re looking at wifey material. Don’t be a b!tch, step up to the plate, and let ‘er rip.
I like the idea of going to her game, then givingredients a compliment and asking her out. Bit what if she's a bench warmer?
I think knowing who she is has an advantage of familiarity. I was at work meeting and the pm was doing introductions. The cute girl said she's seen me around and it was nice to be formally introduced. That was awesome, Too bad I'm married. Seriously too bad.
You.could potentially do the same thing. Go up to her and saw hey, aren't you "so and so from softball? " and she'll confirm her identity. I very seen you around nice to meet you baby. Chit chat for a few minutes, suggest yall hang out and get the digits.
I bet he still hasn’t got to first base
Bump time. So, it's about start of the fall semester. How's our beta boy hero doing with his dream girl?
Update please.
People are shy because they are afraid of being rejected. 100% of girls are NOT going to be interested in you same as you are not interested in 100% of girls so rejection is just something everybody has to face and get over. Even if as much as half the girls like you that still means you are going to get rejected 50% of the time.
You are not going to stop fearing rejection because some unknown on the internet like me says so, thus what I am going to suggest is that you take rejection out of the equation. If you went up to a girl and said, "Hey, you look really nice. Want to go on a date?" She might say yes, she might say no. Possibility of rejection. If you go up and say, "Hey, you look really nice." no possibility of rejection. Don't lie. If you don't think she looks nice, don't say it. But there is going to be something you do like, her dress, earrings, how she did her hair. Say that.
Everybody likes to talk about themselves as it is pretty easy, it's a subject they know. For example, "Hi! Thought of talking to you a hundred times but I am really shy. (OWN it, nothing wrong with being shy, everybody FEELS shy, just some people don't let it stop them from ACTING). So tell me about yourself. Going to college? What are you studying? Working? What do you do? Play an instrument? Practice a sport? Why did you pick that instrument/sport? Like movies? Want to go to one? Like music? Want kind? Go to concerts? Want to go to one?
It isn't sudden death. Let's say you get a no about going out. Ask another question or two. Then "Hey good talking to you. Glad to get to know you a little better. We'll talk again” or better ”If you give me your number we can talk again." You don't have to ask her out, better if you don't the first time you talk. If you get a number use it in 24-36 hours.
If you are going up to somebody you want to get to know, there is pressure. Practice on people you don't want to get to know. Walk up to random people, stick out your hand and introduce yourself. "I'm so and so, I'm not running for office, I'm trying to get over my shyness. Have a nice day." That's it. Doesn't matter if they shake your hand or not. Just get out what you want to say. And smile. Good luck!