My Wife's College Friends are Visiting and I can't Wait for them to Leave

This is all really simple. Unless you have to get on the phone for your work from home, go to a coffee shop for a few hours.

They do not go explore the city because going out with young kids sucks. They stay up past 11 because its the only time they have to themselves, at night when the kids are asleep.

You sound like a grouchy old woman. "They cut an apple on my nice countertop!", "They stayed up until 11 pm!", "Their kids are acting like kids!"

Just put in some earbuds and chill the f*ck out, you big baby.

Bang them both. That will teach your wife.

1) When you invite people into your home, you are supposed to make them feel at home. You have not done so.

2) They aren't inconsiderate. They are young families, and that's how kids are. Nothing you have described is rude or out of the ordinary at all. They can't read your mind to know what you would like them to do.

3) Sounds like you don't have much experience with kids. Visiting a new city isn't really what most little kids would like to do, and it isn't what many mothers of young kids would like to do depending on the kids.

4) They came to visit your wife. You should gauge how much she liked having them over before you rant at her over it. She's allowed to want to remain in contact with her college friends.

5) It's normal to be relieved when guests leave, as they do interrupt the normal flow of your life, even if they do everything the way you would like them too. They have to do something really out of the ordinary though for you to get mad at them, and I don't see that they did based on anything you said.

To me you sound inexperienced and immature. My advice to you is to grow up a little and don't be a d!ck to your wife about it.

Wow, brother...this hasn't gone as you had hoped, eh?

Should tell you how wrong you are.

Frustrated Husband wrote:

Both of them complain about their husbands wanting them to spend less money and go back to work. One of them is definitely headed for a divorce in the future.

Most of your post is one big whine that would have been better for your flower-painted diary, but this comment should be a wake up call, bud.

Your wife is hanging out with her friends who are complaining about their husbands and you're about to victim puke after they leave. You're pretty much announcing to the world that you aren't an "alpha" with this post and she's going to be incredibly turned off when you spew pouty, verbal diarrhea all over her right after they leave.

Your attitude is grist for your wife's and her friends' future late night talks. For your own good, don't say anything to her about it, except "Well, that was fun." She'll probably complain about her friends.

It's the woman's job to complain, not yours.

Pics of wife and friends? Any tales of college “experimentation”?

Kick them out. "It's time for you to go now." "Get out." If they don't leave, kick them out.

Because you're letting them do it.

Turn the tv off. Tell them to go to bed and be quiet.

If there's any flack, then tell them to get out and make sure they leave immediately.

Hide your valuables and watch them carefully.

Flagpole wrote:

They came to visit your wife. You should gauge how much she liked having them over before you rant at her over it. She's allowed to want to remain in contact with her college friends.

If she doesn't like you kicking them out then she can leave with them.

Sounds like you didn't communicate with your wife before the guests arrived. You two should have talked and known what to expect. This shouldn't have been a surprise.

Plan with your spouse

Makes sense. My tolerance for people coming over with kids and essentially acting like a young family, was basically zero, until I had my own kids. Now I get it.. kids (and parents) destroy the house during the day, going anywhere with young kids is a pain in the ass, and yes, the parents stay up as late as they can at night because it's the only downtime they get. So it's all believable, but I'm on your side in that I agree with how you feel since I was once there. It's a LOT to deal with and handle if you aren't used to it.. like, a lot.

My advice.. since you're working at home, drink just enough to take the edge and anxiety away, until they leave. Then do not complain to your wife.. just say "Hope you had fun" and pretend like you care, but no need to give her any crap. If you do, you'll be one of the lame husbands that her friends were complaining about. You will likely seem like "such a good guy" because you dealt with all that in stride.. your wife knows it was a shock and overwhelming for you.

It's just par for the course in trying to keep your wife happy. Not much you can really do except vent on here, then go buy something cool online while you're locked in your office during the day avoiding all the chaos to hopefully make yourself feel better.

complain t your wife later.

Then she and her friend may be able to get a discount on that divorce lawyer.

Just be thankful her friends aren't male.

It is your wife's house too, let her enjoy it. She will appreciate you for it.

Take advantage of the time to go out with some friends. Sleep on a buddy's couch if you need to.

If letsrun is siding with your wife you know you are wrong.

ex-golfer wrote:

If letsrun is siding with your wife you know you are wrong.

^this

If you refrain from bitching and just say 'yeah, it was a bit chaotic but was fine', you will go up in your wife's estimation. If you choose to open the floodgates then, well, the opposite.

Women never accept that their friends or parents are a pain the ass to have as houseguests. Better not to say anything at all.

However, if you had 2-3 BROS over for the weekend, sat around drinking, leave pizza boxes all over, whatever, she'll flip out.

Nothing you can do about it. It is what it is.

Got divorced over this, essentially. In hindsight, you have to let these kinds of events go. Believe me, it's not worth the pain and suffering. As others have said, go to the local coffee shop and work. Come home and be all touchy feely and go to bed. Plenty of time afterwards to clean up and tell your wife what a wonderful time it was...

Use this forum to your advantage! There’s a long thread about Michael Jackson touching kids here. That’s the answer... Start dressing and acting like the decaeased pedo. Get really close with the young children. Those noisy pigs will leave really quick... and most likely won’t come back.

You’re welcome.