Yea but you were saying the EXACT same things. Your behavior (acting exhausted) was caused by her/her fault (I was exhausted because she was in a bad mood)
That she had someone made you feel exhausted or tired or upset because of how she acted. She is another human. She does not control your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and actions. So you're both blaming each other for why you feel/how you act.
Then you would be lying based on your OP. See above:
Your behavior (acting exhausted) was caused by her/her fault (I was exhausted because she was in a bad mood). Pretty clear from that she is at fault for how you acted....not you.
I talked about this already. If she came to you, and initiated conversation in this way, you should not have and should not tolerate it. Trying to 'calm her down' is still giving her attention, which is what she wants from drama. If she wanted to have a discussion she would be rational. If she just needed support and love, she would not give you drama (harsh, negative emotions directed at you). Your girl coming to you to be held in your arms and cry is not drama. It's not harsh, it's not directed at you. Her being hysterical and directing at you, yelling, anger, etc. ARE drama.
Drama is all about attention. Trying to be nice and calm, while admirable and good behavior, is fundamentally the wrong approach. Your teaching her that if she gives you drama, you will give her attention and the cycle perpetuates and is reinforced. Not to mention if you sit there and take verbal abuse yourself an emotional punching bag and making it VERY hard to remain happy.
As I said before, what you should do is tell her; calmly and lovingly, that you don't like to be treated in such a manner. Then, get your stuff, get in your car, and go home. Do not stay and talk to her, do not respond to calls, do not respond to texts. Do this for at least 24 hours. If it was especially egregious, days or weeks might be warranted. Then resume contact with her like normal.
IF the situation was partially or totally your fault (i.e. she was yelling at you because you didn't clean up the house and you had promised her you would) you SHOULD immediately apolagize and tell her you messed up and take responsibility for that...but that you also won't be treated like that (with the initial drama). If the drama was unwarranted, then you can just say "I don't think/won't tolerate being yelled at and treated disrespectfully. I dislike how it feels and don't find it productive. If you want to talk or discuss something I'm more than happy to do it calmly with you."