Girl says she doesn't want to date me because I'm too well built?

Is She Being Serious? wrote:

I take fitness pretty seriously and run/lift 5x a week. I often get comments about how I'm looking fit/strong...At times I wonder if I've taken it a little overboard (I've never taken steroids or anything of that nature). Anyways after seeing this girl on a few occasions I thought things were going really well and told her I'd like to become exclusive. She came back and said I'm not her type as working out is not really somethings shes into, and she's always been attracted to more regular slim type guys. I was taken aback but appreciated the honesty. Or so I thought...is she being for real?

Send nudes plz

years ago, I was running doubles, getting in tons of miles, 90-110 per week. I would date some girls, and for a variety of reasons, we would move on. However, two times, girls blamed me for them gaining weight . I'm not kidding. They actually said, "You eat so much, how am I supposed to lose weight? " They independently said that they were not responsible for their own eating habits. That my high amount of eating was the reason they gained weight, and that they were not responsible for any of it.

So, you are dealing with a girl who does not like it that you exercise as often as you do. This girl is saying the same thing. She does not like it that you are doing this, looking good, and she isn't.

You are to blame for her laziness. Not her.

You and I are both better off.

Agnjac wrote:

She doesn’t want to tell you the truth. She finds you repulsive in every way.

exactly

she doesn't want to hurt your feelings

Is She Being Serious? wrote:

I take fitness pretty seriously and run/lift 5x a week. I often get comments about how I'm looking fit/strong...At times I wonder if I've taken it a little overboard (I've never taken steroids or anything of that nature). Anyways after seeing this girl on a few occasions I thought things were going really well and told her I'd like to become exclusive. She came back and said I'm not her type as working out is not really somethings shes into, and she's always been attracted to more regular slim type guys. I was taken aback but appreciated the honesty. Or so I thought...is she being for real?

She just wasn't that into you. She went out with you a few times (from how you describe it) which means she obviously found you attractive enough. She gave you this answer because she either didn't see you as serious material, or just didn't want a relationship with you at all. Your build was just the reason her women brain gave because people are rarely going to say "Im not really interested in you for a LTR" or whatever.

More importantly....you saw her "on a few occassions", which sounds like a few weeks/dates and you wanted to get into an EXCLUSIVE relationship with her? Wut?

Why you want to be exclusive in the first place is a topic for another day....but a "few occassions" and want something exclusive? I would say you should go 6 months MINIMUM while seeing only the good qualities you desire out of a relationship with zero or very minimal bad ones before you even remotely consider pulling the trigger for a committed relationship. You have no clue who she is at this point and are asking for disaster.

She is saying you're gay

jinx23 wrote:

Don't be so literal, she's just making up a reason. And, let's be honest here, you're no MATT LONDON!!, are you?

I can only dream of one day being Matt London.

Anyways wanted to provide an update. She texted me saying she didn't feel right about he we left things off. She said it was my biceps in particular that were too large. However, if I was still interested, she would enter a relationship with me under the condition that I only train arms every other week. Moreover, after three months we would reevaluate the relationship and if my biceps had lost an 1.5" in circumference she would continue dating me. It's obviously a lot to think about so I haven't gotten back to her yet, but would still greatly appreciate LR's advice in moving forward.

Is She Being Serious? wrote:

jinx23 wrote:

Don't be so literal, she's just making up a reason. And, let's be honest here, you're no MATT LONDON!!, are you?

I can only dream of one day being Matt London.

Anyways wanted to provide an update. She texted me saying she didn't feel right about he we left things off. She said it was my biceps in particular that were too large. However, if I was still interested, she would enter a relationship with me under the condition that I only train arms every other week. Moreover, after three months we would reevaluate the relationship and if my biceps had lost an 1.5" in circumference she would continue dating me. It's obviously a lot to think about so I haven't gotten back to her yet, but would still greatly appreciate LR's advice in moving forward.

Interesting, your mom was saying my johnson has an extra 1.5" that she just can't handle

Is She Being Serious? wrote:

jinx23 wrote:

Don't be so literal, she's just making up a reason. And, let's be honest here, you're no MATT LONDON!!, are you?

I can only dream of one day being Matt London.

Anyways wanted to provide an update. She texted me saying she didn't feel right about he we left things off. She said it was my biceps in particular that were too large. However, if I was still interested, she would enter a relationship with me under the condition that I only train arms every other week. Moreover, after three months we would reevaluate the relationship and if my biceps had lost an 1.5" in circumference she would continue dating me. It's obviously a lot to think about so I haven't gotten back to her yet, but would still greatly appreciate LR's advice in moving forward.

I'm not sure if you're trolling, but whatever, I'll bite.

RUN AWAY ASAP. This girl is crazy if she requires you to stop working out because she is that insecure about herself. RUN AND DONT LOOK BACK

Is She Being Serious? wrote:

jinx23 wrote:

Don't be so literal, she's just making up a reason. And, let's be honest here, you're no MATT LONDON!!, are you?

I can only dream of one day being Matt London.

Anyways wanted to provide an update. She texted me saying she didn't feel right about he we left things off. She said it was my biceps in particular that were too large. However, if I was still interested, she would enter a relationship with me under the condition that I only train arms every other week. Moreover, after three months we would reevaluate the relationship and if my biceps had lost an 1.5" in circumference she would continue dating me. It's obviously a lot to think about so I haven't gotten back to her yet, but would still greatly appreciate LR's advice in moving forward.

You suck.

Hey smart guy: I wasn't the one who referred to myself as intimidating. That adjective was used by my then-girlfriend to describe my physique, and subsequently by a sedentary and overweight male friend who suggested -allegedly to be helpful- that I "should work out less and eat more" in order to not "frighten women off." Fit shaming exists.

7/10 if this is a troll, but I'll respond anyway.

You sound pretty young and I wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with someone that didn't take health and fitness pretty seriously. I know a few hudbands who actually get in trouble from their wives for getting an hour run in or whatever. They have to make sure to check with them first. Sure, most of them have kids to take care of and I can understand that, but some don't. That's mind boggling to me that their wives would rather have their husbands just sit and watch TV with them or something than go better themselves physically.

Also, I wouldn't look into crossfit girls. If a girl needs to go to a class or boot camp or whatever to stay motivated, then eventually they will probably lose motivation.

Is She Being Serious? wrote:

I can only dream of one day being Matt London.

No wonder she doesn't like you.

She's doing two things:

1. Gauging your interest by testing the space that this statement creates.

2. Trying to get nailed by other guys.

Your best option is to stop giving her attention immediately.

You'll get a lot more fish than you lose by getting muscular merely relative to other runners.

Is She Being Serious? wrote:

I take fitness pretty seriously and run/lift 5x a week. I often get comments about how I'm looking fit/strong...At times I wonder if I've taken it a little overboard (I've never taken steroids or anything of that nature). Anyways after seeing this girl on a few occasions I thought things were going really well and told her I'd like to become exclusive. She came back and said I'm not her type as working out is not really somethings shes into, and she's always been attracted to more regular slim type guys. I was taken aback but appreciated the honesty. Or so I thought...is she being for real?

I was told a girl didn’t want to date me because my penis was too big and hurt when we hooked up. I knew she was lying because it’s only 9 inches.

Likely you are gay, and she is not looking for a confidante

sillyman wrote:

Likely you are gay, and she is not looking for a confidante

Betas be flocking to this post...

Meat Tornado wrote:

How much do you workout?

Are you obsessed with working out? Do you come across as self-absorbed because you workout so much?

Fitness fanaticism can be a huge red flag.

Definitely that. If you didn’t mention you work out she wouldn’t care. If you went on about it then she starts to think you are a narcissistic vain b*stard.

This is a really funny thread but real life answer is girls don’t really like muscular guys all that much unless they themselves are fitness chicks/gym rats. Therefore 99% of the female population isn’t into muscles but don’t tell that to guys at the gym. Every girl I’ve known from the hottest on down have dated and gone on to marry average guys. The other part of it is muscular guys are seen as incapable of not being players and there’s some truth to that. I’m married but when I was heavy into weightlifting a few years ago before becoming exclusively a runner all the guys at the gym were flirting with every girl, in the club every night, posting on social media with shirts off etc. almost none were looking for anything serious. I don’t know how much of a brah you are and taking your health seriously is fine but don’t lift thinking that will attract girls, it rarely does and more often has the opposite effect.