Before we got married I went to her brother’s birthday and he got very drunk. As I was leaving he told me that if I hurt her or cheated on her as her ex husband did that his friends and him would beat me up. I laughed and played it cool.
Fast forward to New Years Day. We’re all eating lunch and I’m just telling her sister’s husband how even in the winter I take cold showers for muscle recovery. Her sister who is unemployed but studied biology gives no scientific argument and just says “that’s stupid.” On Thanksgiving, we’d lightly argued about her belief in vegetarian diet so the other day as she started to criticize me, I just said “ok, the vegetarian’s right.” She screamed that vegetarianism has nothing to do with it and stormed off from the table.
That night at dinner her husband went to attack. First he tells me how when he first met me, he thought I was gay. Then her brothers laugh and started saying their beer “girly man” was named after me. I see then that how they operate is by always cracking jokes on the other but also felt them ganging up on me. So when this woman’s husband said out of the blue how he could run 5 miles, I invited him to run with me the next day. He said no and how he was going skiing. I then said he needs to stop making excuses if he wants to lose his pregnant looking belly. I then went into one of the brothers and started to say how big his nose is. Long story short, it was a mentally exhausting dinner.
So for the first time, I started to have doubts about our marriage. My wife said how we don’t live with her family and just have to deal with them on the holidays. But when in my anger I said how I wanted to slap her sister’s husband, she said if I ever reacted violently, she’d leave me.
I am just thinking and thinking. Will this all pass and improve when I adapt or do I run and run and run?