Question to the old married guys here

10 years.

Find the right person and someone who really loves you rather than goes through the motions..

Watch Raymond again he actually always finds his wife hot.

My mate once said find someone you get on well with 90% of the time and actually like. Some previous relationships I fundementally did not like them.

I'm much happier than when I was single. Some things are best shared.

Let's face it, you know more at 30 than when you were 20.

Usually that helps you out in relationships.

22 years.

Anyone else get a bl0wj0b last night?

25 years:

Your wife should also be your best friend.

Laugh.

Don't go to bed angry.

Don't ever let your parting words be cruel. There will come a day when those are your final words to each other.

Understand that time apart is as important as time together.

Don't measure your marriage by what works for others. Every marriage is unique.

Never lose sight of why you fell in love in the first place.

It does get easier as you go.

Best wishes ;)

Similar to you, but 16 years. Best thing we did was not get married until age 34-35. Then we still took about 7-8 years to travel the world and make experiences and then we had two kids. Feels great to be an older parent. Pregnancy that late does have its health concerns, but it worked for us. Sex is good don't see that changing for at least 30 years.

Warning- when women start to go through the change- watch out! Deal with it the best you can.

One thing I can say, that has been mentioned yet, is that I also gained a family. She has a large wonderful family and that makes a difference in a marriage as well. Great holidays and parties! Hope to make memories past 100!

TheJeff-

I enjoy many of your posts, and find you to be one of the only palatable posters on letsrun. You represent our state of Alabama well, as you have alluded to being from here in a thread you started about the state cross country meet last year.

What part of Alabama do you reside in? Are you a coach or parent of an athlete?

FellowAlabamian wrote:

TheJeff-

I enjoy many of your posts, and find you to be one of the only palatable posters on letsrun. You represent our state of Alabama well, as you have alluded to being from here in a thread you started about the state cross country meet last year.

What part of Alabama do you reside in? Are you a coach or parent of an athlete?

Ha! I do have family in AL, and I still live in the Deep South... but I left AL as a teenager. But yes, I am a HS teacher and XCTF coach, and I have close friends who compete at high levels in AL. Kids are young, but play soccer and all that good stuff.

As much as I appreciate your kind words, I try to stay away from identifying myself in the real world. There are some legitimately creepy folks on these boards...

Says the creepy guy himself and a high school teacher (claims to be) as well. That's scary!

rolltidewho? wrote:

theJeff wrote:

Ha! I do have family in AL, and I still live in the Deep South... but I left AL as a teenager. But yes, I am a HS teacher and XCTF coach, and I have close friends who compete at high levels in AL. Kids are young, but play soccer and all that good stuff.

As much as I appreciate your kind words, I try to stay away from identifying myself in the real world. There are some legitimately creepy folks on these boards...

Says the creepy guy himself and a high school teacher (claims to be) as well. That's scary!

Am I creepy? I don't think I have ever said anything "creepy" in here.

PS- you talk in your sleep.

Texerine wrote:

Other good points above, particularly that love is a decision you make every day, it's not a feeling.

that's really the key..

married 29 years so far, still stumbling along.

Sex - less often than I'd like, more often than never. I wouldn't get any sex at all if not married, so it's all on the plus side in my case. The question of sex whether in marriage or outside is always going to be entirely specific to the persons concerned, there are no general rules.

J. R. R. Tolkien: "Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might have found more suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to."

George Bernard Shaw: "When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal and exhausting condition until death do them part."

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe: "Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished."

14 years and want to jump off a bridge. Only in it for the kids. As soon as they graduate I'm out and will likely jump around every year or so to enjoy the honeymoon over and over. Then maybe I will settle down when I'm 70 with some younger woman who lost her husband and wants someone to take care of.

20 years strong.

Lot of great advice above. Definitely learn to compromise. Try not to get in a habit of the petty fighting. Its not worth it. Before having kids, make sure you are both on the same page. Choose wisely.

I have been married longer than anyone here and know more about women than anyone here. The key to marriage is visualization. Every night while I make sweet, sweet love to my wife with my tool that is bigger than anyone here, I visualize myself getting pegged by Hillary Clinton.

Married 20 years to a wonderful lady. My best ever friend.

We are child free by choice. So it is just me and her. We do almost everything together and have never ever got bored of each other.

When apart we long for each other. We can't relate to others who are in unhappy relationships.

We do sports together and both are in top shape.

donotdoit wrote:

14 years and want to jump off a bridge. Only in it for the kids. As soon as they graduate I'm out and will likely jump around every year or so to enjoy the honeymoon over and over. Then maybe I will settle down when I'm 70 with some younger woman who lost her husband and wants someone to take care of.

Same, only at 27 years. Just a few more to go, though, and the hottie I knew in college is free of the chains now and still hot. I'm jumping back in time very soon.

55, married 26 years.

Surprised nobody has talked about sleeping arrangements.

We sleep in separate beds. I like a sheet with the window ajar. She likes a thick electric blanket.

I flop all around during the night, kicking, snorting, grunting, farting, getting up to pee. She falls asleep on her back and doesn't move until she wakes up.

I go to bed at 10 and wake up at 6:30 to run.

she goes to bed at 10:30 and wakes up at 5am to run on the treadmill.

We both enjoy good sleep, are more rested for each day, which we believe results in minimal arguments/fights throughout our marriage.

TheJeff-

Fair enough, I can totally respect that. I grew up competing in AL and left my mark, then migrated out of state. Alas, I have recently moved back to my roots, and am enjoying the fine state of Alabama.

26 years. We do our own thing and do things together. I have to keep her around because no one else would have me! ;-) Besides, I am too much of a perv and she would have too much dirt on me! Also, it took a lot of grooming to turn her into a perv as well, and I wouldn't want to start over with someone new.

We have separate bedrooms. I am a light sleeper and I am much nicer to be around when I am well rested. Anyhow, we "visit" each other and one of us has to do the "walk of shame" down the hall. I make sure that she gets taken care of, and it seems like she's always ready to go when I am.