Texerine wrote:
gaslighting wrote:
That's pretty much what my neighbor initially said. So do most of you on here know your neighbors' house numbers off the top of your head? My wife and I are very friendly with one of the families across the street but I couldn't tell you what their house number is.
4/10. Who doesn't know how addresses progress on a street?
I couldn't. Which way is it?
gaslighting wrote:
Part 2:
My wife came out afterwards and asked what happened and I told her the story. The crazy lady pulled up to my neighbor (at 206 Aspen) a couple of minutes later and started talking to him. I could see them looking at me, clearly she was telling him about our encounter. My neighbor, an old man who lives alone, comes over to my yard and says "This lady says you were being rude to her."
I told him about the previous encounter and he said "So you don't know who your neighbor is?" I was pretty pissed that he was taking her side and just said "Well I didn't know your house number off the top of my head. Besides, we never talk, you know?" Then he said "You're not Donald Trump, you can't talk to women like that." I was left speechless by that response so my wife responded "He did nothing wrong, please leave." My neighbor shook his head and walked back to his house. Also, during this entire conversation, the crazy lady was yelling at us from my neighbor's house, but I couldn't make out anything she was saying.
My wife and I went inside and had dinner. Afterwards I told her I was going to go try to make peace with my neighbor. I walked to his house and just asked him if that lady found what she was looking for. He said "Yes, I posted an ad online for a couch I was selling and she was buying it from me." I asked if he knew her and if she lived in the neighborhood and he said he didn't know her or where she was from, but she probably wasn't from around here. Then I said "Look I'm sorry you got caught in the middle of that but you have to believe me that she was being hostile towards me." Then said "Yeah, I'm sorry I took her side over yours. My house number is hard to see from the street so I could see how you wouldn't know my address. After I went back to help her with the couch and talked with her some more I could tell that she had a few screws loose."
We talked for a couple of minutes and finally I asked "Alright, so we're cool then?" He said "Yeah, we're good, but I still don't think you should have cussed at her. Maybe that's just me being an old southern gentlemen though." I was a little peeved by that, but figured there was some truth to it so I just said "Yeah I'll try to keep my cool next time." We shook hands and I went home.
Do you think my neighbor is right? Was it inappropriate for me to drop the f bomb on her? I do feel a little bad about it, but when I replay the scenario over in my head I feel like it was justified because of her hostility.
haven't read the whole thread much beyond this, but i think you hit the nail on the head. You shouldn't have dropped the f' bomb. And i say that for 3 reasons:
1) some people are not right in the head or are not communicating clearly, and all people deserve to be treated civilly. You really gained nothing from being rude. Just end the conversation if you feel it is necessary. The rude comment was gratuitous and you were just throwing a proverbial punch on the way out
2) you never know when encounters with strangers might escalate into something deadly. Is it worth possibly fueling something like that with a complete stranger?
3) Your actions may very well follow you. Whatever she did to desrerve it, now you are known as that kind of person to your neighbors. This isn't about her. It's about what kind of person you are. Can you live with that?
Tea and Scrumpets for everyone. Peace in the neighborhood.
seattle prattle wrote:
gaslighting wrote:
Part 2:
My wife came out afterwards and asked what happened and I told her the story. The crazy lady pulled up to my neighbor (at 206 Aspen) a couple of minutes later and started talking to him. I could see them looking at me, clearly she was telling him about our encounter. My neighbor, an old man who lives alone, comes over to my yard and says "This lady says you were being rude to her."
I told him about the previous encounter and he said "So you don't know who your neighbor is?" I was pretty pissed that he was taking her side and just said "Well I didn't know your house number off the top of my head. Besides, we never talk, you know?" Then he said "You're not Donald Trump, you can't talk to women like that." I was left speechless by that response so my wife responded "He did nothing wrong, please leave." My neighbor shook his head and walked back to his house. Also, during this entire conversation, the crazy lady was yelling at us from my neighbor's house, but I couldn't make out anything she was saying.
My wife and I went inside and had dinner. Afterwards I told her I was going to go try to make peace with my neighbor. I walked to his house and just asked him if that lady found what she was looking for. He said "Yes, I posted an ad online for a couch I was selling and she was buying it from me." I asked if he knew her and if she lived in the neighborhood and he said he didn't know her or where she was from, but she probably wasn't from around here. Then I said "Look I'm sorry you got caught in the middle of that but you have to believe me that she was being hostile towards me." Then said "Yeah, I'm sorry I took her side over yours. My house number is hard to see from the street so I could see how you wouldn't know my address. After I went back to help her with the couch and talked with her some more I could tell that she had a few screws loose."
We talked for a couple of minutes and finally I asked "Alright, so we're cool then?" He said "Yeah, we're good, but I still don't think you should have cussed at her. Maybe that's just me being an old southern gentlemen though." I was a little peeved by that, but figured there was some truth to it so I just said "Yeah I'll try to keep my cool next time." We shook hands and I went home.
Do you think my neighbor is right? Was it inappropriate for me to drop the f bomb on her? I do feel a little bad about it, but when I replay the scenario over in my head I feel like it was justified because of her hostility.
haven't read the whole thread much beyond this, but i think you hit the nail on the head. You shouldn't have dropped the f' bomb. And i say that for 3 reasons:
1) some people are not right in the head or are not communicating clearly, and all people deserve to be treated civilly. You really gained nothing from being rude. Just end the conversation if you feel it is necessary. The rude comment was gratuitous and you were just throwing a proverbial punch on the way out
2) you never know when encounters with strangers might escalate into something deadly. Is it worth possibly fueling something like that with a complete stranger?
3) Your actions may very well follow you. Whatever she did to desrerve it, now you are known as that kind of person to your neighbors. This isn't about her. It's about what kind of person you are. Can you live with that?
THIS^^
Down goes the dow in the neighborhood. This will fix everything:
Yeah ice cream solves most everything. Did you think to offer her any or your neighbor. It's never too late.
Moral of the story, don't buy couches on the internet, don't get lost and don't ask for directions, especially if you're on Aspen Lane.
Another solution could be to give the lady a gift. Just buy tickets to the Dawg Pound section of a Cleveland Browns game and give them to her and your neighbor. Then they would think that you are a Saint after that experience.
http://meetthematts.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/browns-dawg-pound.jpg
prettymuchthesamething wrote:
The person is probably delusional and has some sort of psychological issues. In theory continuing to be nice and helpful is the best choice, but when nothing is getting through to them, yeah, just f**k off, I'm not spending any more time on this issue.
If I was really curious I might go chat with the person at 206 and let them know what happened.
I'm pretty sure the Dalai Lama would have handled it the same way, not noticed that she was probably frustrated, confused, lost and was talking loud to hear over the car engine noise or make sure she was projecting through the window -- and told her to "F-Off" as well. Cos, like, you know, who is she?
It's never ok to be rude to anyone. Even those that are rude to us. how much better are you than they are if you reply back with rudeness.
You should have checked the legal status of your neighbor. Anyone who mentions President Trump's name to insult you could be an illegal alien. He should be either deported, or locked up (in case he was born here).
As for the lady, you should have treated her more politely if she was white and had no foreign accent. Otherwise, you were too polite.
Make America Great Again wrote:
You should have checked the legal status of your neighbor. Anyone who mentions President Trump's name to insult you could be an illegal alien. He should be either deported, or locked up (in case he was born here).
As for the lady, you should have treated her more politely if she was white and had no foreign accent. Otherwise, you were too polite.
No, really, i hardly think the message we are to take away from all the recent press is that women are being treated "politely." On the contrary, just do anything you like and make sure you have a loyal lawyer with a fat checkbook. And you might want to carefully consider the loyalty thing....
Not buying it for a second. No way I believe there is anyone stoopid enough to not know which direction the numbers count on their own street. Exact addresses sure, but not even knowing which direction is higher and which is lower? Nope.
Hakuna Matata
8/10
One of the best troll threads I've ever read here. Well done!
It depends on what South is South.
If you are in Tennessee, eh, men love their women there but many beat them too. So for Tennessee, you were fine.
Georgia or Alabama or Mississippi, probably should not have sworn. Otherwise you are fine.
Kentucky? No biggie...everyone is crazy in Kentucky lol
You're overreacting and you were obviously slow to pick up that the lady had some problems. Dead giveaway she asked for 206, then a second later said she knew it was 212. Should have just said "I don't know" (which would have been the truth) and let it go. Cursing at someone who clearly had a mental problem /disability is not only wrong it accomplishes nothing.
gaslighting wrote:
Yesterday evening I was doing yard work near my mailbox and a lady pulled up in front of my house in her car and asked for directions. And by ask, I mean she was yelling at me. She started with "Is this 206 Aspen Lane?" I replied "No, this is 212 Aspen Lane." (I'm making up the addresses since I don't want to post my real address). Then she said "I KNOW this is 212, I'm looking for 206!"
I was pretty shocked by that response, but I kept cool and said "Well I don't know my neighbors house numbers off the top of my head but it should be one of the houses on either side of mine". Then she said "Well, who are you supposed to be?" I didn't know what to say to that so I just responded with "What?" Then she yelled "I'M LOOKING FOR SOMEONE! IS THIS APSEN LANE?!"
I was getting frustrated by this point and said "Yes this is Aspen Lane I just don't know which house is 206. It's either this one or that one (pointing to my neighbors)." She started to yell something again I and stopped her and said "Look lady I'm trying to help you but you're being extremely rude". Then she yelled back at me "I'm not being rude! You're the one being rude!" Finally I had enough and yelled "Just get the f**k out of here!" Now she was the one who shocked and said "Oh my God..." and then drove off.
This is getting long so I'll post the aftermath later. But for now, what would you have done if you had been in my shoes? I've never screamed and cursed at a stranger before but I just wanted her to leave.
So she is pickup up a sofa with her CAR??
And to the other bolded (APSEN LANE sic), you could have told her that Apsen Lane isn't around here.
Here's my thoughts, since you asked...
You're old enough to be married. You're old enough to know whether anyone was right, wrong or otherwise in this situation.
You do not need validation from anonymous groups of people on the internet.
Please try to stick to the purpose of the forum and at least make part of your story like, "Oh, I was so pissed I took a run and set a PR!"
Bobfake9899 wrote:
I would have said “f**k off” before she finished rolling down the window.
I like the way you think!
blamb61 wrote:
It's never ok to be rude to anyone. Even those that are rude to us. how much better are you than they are if you reply back with rudeness.
I think you're wrong on this one. While I would never start off by being rude, there have been times when getting rude back was exactly what was needed.
As for the OPs story, I probably would not have "been rude" in front of my house, just because I don't need someone getting irrationally angry and messing with my house at a later date.
To paraphrase Law 196 of the Code of Hammurabi - If a man is rude to another man, then that man will be rude to the other.
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