Anyone meet your wife and know almost immediately you were going to marry her?

Yes, and will have been married 20 years in August.

bootleg bekele wrote:

You’re in a great spot in your own life and you’re thriving by yourself.

Don’t get that confused with the ‘magic’ of meeting the right person.

You’re the right person for yourself, and you could undoubtedly have the same connection with many, many other attractive interesting people.

What does this mean for you? First priority - keep doing what you do make you thrive as a person.

second priority- be fascinated by the connection you have with this person

last priority- be fascinated and infatuated with her .

Actually, being content by yourself is a pretty good start to find the 'right one'.

Being afraid of being alone, desperately looking for a partner, trying to prove better than your divorced parents, are recipies for picking the wrong partners.

Pure luck and physical attraction on both sides. Plus has every hot girl you tried to date really gone out with you. Come on we've all been given the brush off by girls we would have been happy with but not vice versa

I've dated about 20 women and thought I'm going to marry that girl only to be proved wrong after a few weeks months or even years!

There are hundreds of women you could have married even in your local area and perfectly happy with in different ways

Most of these love at first site people met young or didn't date many people. Or get to 30 and marry whoever they happen to be going out with!

Doclove wrote:

Pure luck and physical attraction on both sides. Plus has every hot girl you tried to date really gone out with you. Come on we've all been given the brush off by girls we would have been happy with but not vice versa

I've dated about 20 women and thought I'm going to marry that girl only to be proved wrong after a few weeks months or even years!

There are hundreds of women you could have married even in your local area and perfectly happy with in different ways

Most of these love at first site people met young or didn't date many people. Or get to 30 and marry whoever they happen to be going out with!

So true, it's amazing the number of couples in love at first sight that divorce once the kids are finally out of the house.

Oh Please wrote:

I've had the opposite experience. There were a couple of women that I thought "I'm going to marry her!" and it never worked out. Those first impressions never work out.

This makes me think of how people get really excited when someone you are thinking about calls or texts you and you think "Wow, cosmic" but ignore the hundreds of other times you were thinking about someone and that person did not call.

To the OP: I had a pretty good feeling when I met my (now ex---so I am not sure that is something you want to hear) wife. Like you said, the flow of the conversation, etc made it seem like she was a keeper.

Doclove wrote:

Pure luck and physical attraction on both sides. Plus has every hot girl you tried to date really gone out with you. Come on we've all been given the brush off by girls we would have been happy with but not vice versa

I've dated about 20 women and thought I'm going to marry that girl only to be proved wrong after a few weeks months or even years!

There are hundreds of women you could have married even in your local area and perfectly happy with in different ways

Most of these love at first site people met young or didn't date many people. Or get to 30 and marry whoever they happen to be going out with!

This^

I've been married for over 20 years but I'm under no delusion that this is "the only woman for me in the universe". I could have been happy with any number of other women. I would certainly be a different type of relationship with different positive and negatives. I'm sure she'd say the same thing about other guys. Going around thinking you are "meant" for one person is idiotic.

Wow, did not expect so many people to say yes. I guess to just to offer a counter example, a good friend of mine thinks literally every girl he ever goes out on a second date with is "The One." He's said that about more than 10 different women just to me in the time I've known him.

The one thing that's throwing me a little is that while our lives are both here for about the next year, they're kind of pointed in different directions, and our life goals conflict a little (not a ton, but some). I still think I will pursue it though and see where things go.

Not quite, at first I sort of played hard to get, then she did, and it almost blew up. However, I right away knew that she seemed very interested in me. But like others said, just hanging out seemed pretty easy early on and that's why we've stuck together for 30 years.

I matched with this guy and he immediately starts texting me about how we’re soul mates, and meant to be together. I eventually give in and drive like an hour to see him. His apartment looks like it hadn’t been cleaned in too years. I’m thinking: “Dude, are you even gay?”. Anyway, we really hit it off, but now he won’t let up on the “We’re meant to be togethers” and “I’m going to marry yous”. Also, I’m not sure if he knows I’m a biological man. Is that crazy? I mean, we met on Grinder. What’s up with that?

I certainly did - will swear to this date that she is my soulmate. She didn't feel the same way though, haven't seen her since 1986.

Yes. First saw my wife when warming up on a track. Our eyes met and held for a couple seconds. After that I basically dumped my girlfriend and we've been together for 15 years now. But we both knew almost immediately that we were done searching. I'll spare you the sappy details. Still going strong though, despite being completely different in most ways.

The first time I saw my wife's match.com profile I knew she was the one. What a huge fvcking mistake.