Woman was rather talkative with me in the pool today. Please help me interpret this situation.

Dis one time wrote:

pool newbie wrote:

Hello fellow geniuses of letsrun. I need some help interpreting a situation that occurred in the pool today.

I have been swimming for the past few weeks while I am recovering from a stress fracture and pool etiquette is new to me.

Lane sharing is common and most people ask politely to share a lane and then mostly keep to themselves as they swim. As I finished up a lap today, I noticed that a young woman was at the wall, she asked to share the lane, and I obliged, as usual.

Well, things went a bit differently today. During the swim, she was attempting to make conversation and ask me questions, and was quite friendly and smiled at me a lot. She would ask me a question as soon as I reached the wall, which was a bit annoying because I wanted to immediately turn around and get started on my next lap (but I was flattered and would stop to chat for awhile). I started to get the feeling that she was waiting for me to finish my lap to initiate some conversation....

Anyways, was this woman flirting with me or was she just making conversation and I misinterpreted the situation? I have a feeling that I missed an opportunity here.

True story. "Can you top this?"

Yes.

I was at a clothing optional spa. And, you know, 1% were wearing clothing. So I was naked.

Struck up a conversation with a very attractive woman. Turned out we had a lot in common, lived back home very close to each other - so I decided to ask her out. My mind flashed on some old movie title or something: "What Do You Say To A Naked Lady," and I laughed. She asked me what I laughed about.

I told her I wanted to ask her out, but it wasn't like either of us was dressed to whip out anything to write on or tap on our phones. Then I asked her out. She said "yes." Then she gave me her email and digits, which I memorized. (I'm not Mr. Memory like some people.) More amazingly, by the time I got back to my things, I was able to remember her email and digits.

That's game, my friends, that's game.

pool newbie wrote:

Marcel Proust wrote:

You will probably see her at the pool again soon. She has already worked her way into your imagination (which is not to say that your interpretation was wrong), so there are some interesting possibilities about how the next encounter will go. She may act exactly the same, in which case you might as well go ahead and ask her out (I hope you are better at this kind of thing than I am). Or she may act a little more cool toward you, which will cause you to become even more enflamed. Then when you see her leaving with some other guy you will become more or less obsessed and start timing your entrances and exits to coincide with hers, get extremely jealous when you see her talking to someone else, etc. Once you get caught in one of these situations, it’s very difficult to get yourself out of it. At that point you’re kind of like a drug addict who desperately wants to quit but can’t.

May this love bring you the happiness that you deserve,

Your kindred spirit,

Marcel

Funny that you mention another man because she seemed to be there with some guy and was talking to him about leaving the pool, and then did another couple laps and chatted with me some more. I didn't pay enough attention to scope out that situation. I have been recruited for threesome situations before, so maybe that was going on.

And yes, she has definitely worked herself into my imagination and perhaps I will see her again. Maybe she will continue to be friendly or her interest will cool. Either way, I am down the rabbit hole.

goobers everywhere wrote:

pool newbie wrote:

Funny that you mention another man because she seemed to be there with some guy and was talking to him about leaving the pool, and then did another couple laps and chatted with me some more. I didn't pay enough attention to scope out that situation. I have been recruited for threesome situations before, so maybe that was going on.

And yes, she has definitely worked herself into my imagination and perhaps I will see her again. Maybe she will continue to be friendly or her interest will cool. Either way, I am down the rabbit hole.

It seems that she was pretending to know you to get rid of the guy that you say it seems she was there with. You were just a convenient temporary friend to ditch the other guy. Next time, she will use some unsuspecting fool to ditch you if you stalk her.