? For long time married couples. How many dates before xxx?

Year+ of dating.

No sex til marriage.

Married happily almost 20.

Lets Think This One Through wrote:

Mikeh33 wrote:

This is illogical. I am not sure what sexual chemistry even is. If you love one another, are committed to each other, and determined to please one another, you’ll be “sexually compatible.” No need to “kick the tires” to use the crude metaphor. Waiting until marriage is good.

If you wait until marriage and get stuck with a lemon...then what? ?

I’m not sure what you mean by “lemon” as you didn’t explain. I’d suggest carefully examining a lady’s character over the course of several weeks/months. Sex clouds the mind from that objective examination. Make your expectations for marriage known and find out if she agrees.

What's up with this? wrote:

Mikeh33 wrote:

I agree you should not marry any woman who demands the sex on the first date. Or the second. It’s a sign of poor character. Wait until marriage, you won’t regret it.

Bogus! You just don't buy a new car without test driving it first - no different either with marriage & sex.

Not all cars are new friend.

Some are even stolen goods

Just getting the title is a piece of paper

Used cars wrote:

What's up with this? wrote:

Bogus! You just don't buy a new car without test driving it first - no different either with marriage & sex.

Not all cars are new friend.

Some are even stolen goods

Just getting the title is a piece of paper

And some are lemons

Get a tiger under the hood

When I met my wife, it was 6 weeks before any kissing, touching, and sex. That was 15 yrs ago. To this day we are super close and the fire still burns ?!!! Good things come to those who wait (patiently).

We worked together at a restaurant, flirted a few weeks. Then dated about 3 weeks, so I don't know how many "dates" we had. We've been together 27 yrs now, married 21. Rode me like a champ last night. I probably had sex with 25 girls prior, zero chance I marry one of the first daters.

F on the first date wrote:

bigtime wrote:

What kind of stupid myth is that?

The old ways say the kind of woman worth marrying will make you wait for xxx. My friend is curious if there is any truth to this. Any married or divorced folks care to share their experiences?

I’ve never heard this before, but I’m not really inclined to take relationship advice from someone who is afraid to use the word “sex.”

Married 20 years. 2 months. Don’t recall how many dates.

Been with my boyfriend (manfriend?) for almost six years.

We fooled around on our first date, had full sex a few dates after.

I always waited until 3rd date or so but with him, it felt so right, plus our chemistry was so damn good, that we ended up going home together.

I knew he was a keeper when We woke up the next morning, got breakfast, and just kept talking and talking.

The bottom line: there is no rule. Everyone is different. Do it when it feels right for both of you.

Hey Kitty Girl wrote:

I knew he was a keeper when We woke up the next morning

One of the secrets to a successful long term relationship is for both partners to wake up the next morning. Otherwise it gets dull quickly.

Met young and dated for six years starting as teenagers. Married 37 years. Didn't have sex until married. Still have a great sex life.

Hey Kitty Girl wrote:

Been with my boyfriend (manfriend?) for almost six years.

We fooled around on our first date, had full sex a few dates after.

I always waited until 3rd date or so but with him, it felt so right, plus our chemistry was so damn good, that we ended up going home together.

I knew he was a keeper when We woke up the next morning, got breakfast, and just kept talking and talking.

The bottom line: there is no rule. Everyone is different. Do it when it feels right for both of you.

Sex on the first date though is unlikely to be a good grounding for a long marriage, where do you go from there?

Alex FreeMarket wrote:

No wonder the divorce rate in the United States is so appallingly high. You people are deeply disturbing if you think three or four dates is enough "get to know you time" to form any kind of relarionship which is remotely close to approaching intimacy.

You people should be ashamed of yourselves for being yet another reason this country has willingly flushed itself down the toilet.

This was my thought from the beginning. If you only have sex with one person, then with that

person you have the opportunity to have maximum sex. Sex is mainly in the mind anyway, especially in later

years.

MMA/UFC wrote:

It took me until the third date. I was her third partner, she was my sixth partner.

Been married for 3 years now, 1 toddler. It's love baby.

I suggest that the majority of people commenting on here and have sex early in the marriage

have only been married 10 years or less. Notice not very many will tell you how many

years they have been married.

Marriage is not about sex only.

Been married 40 years. It was so long ago that I don't remember on what date we first had sex, although I am sure it was not the first date.

Been married 27 years it was probably around our 12th date or so, I knew I was going to marry her after our first date.

Hdsethjkkfdf wrote:

My wife and I had sex on our first date. We've been married for two decades.

My first wife we waited a year. Sex sucked and were divorced after 7 years.

Second wife we did it on the first date. Sex life is top notch. Been married 9 years and we are very happy. I’d never do anything to loose her.[/quote]

You keep her tied up?

For us it was negative 1

We had sex on our first date 9.5 years ago. Have now been married 2.5 years and sex is still top notch. Already had sex 3 times this year.