Dating girls that go to your gym

Don't sh***t where you eat. Follow this maxim and your life will be much easier.

DSWYE wrote:

Don't sh***t where you eat. Follow this maxim and your life will be much easier.

Real problem, how do I hide my erection?

Stare at her until she gets weirded out, takes off her headphones and asks you to stop - ice broken, the rest is up to you.

“Dude, if you continue to stare like that, you will go blind. It’s flattering and you have piercing hazel eyes..giggles. Do you mind grabbing some sanitized paper over there for me? I have sweat on this machine ...”

You get all excited that she actually talked to you and you turn quickly to get the wipes....you’re all grins and when you go back to her, your heart sinks...

Even tough I would like to give a non serious response like 90% of the other users, I'll give you an honest one.

Much like what she's trying to do, you need to act not interested at all. That means go on with your training, leave the small talk to yourself and don't stare awkwardly.

She's as insecure as most guys who try to pick her up. (Blame instagram and social network in general) Even if you are a piece of s**t person at least you'll get the benefit of the doubt and are automatically placed higher in her "ranking". If you are reasonably attractive she will eventually try to find out if you fit her imaginary "ranking". If you're ugly however, ignore the whole paragraph.

If you feel like you need an excuse, why not pretend you forgot your towel on the machine? A clean one preferably on a machine she might use soon. It's not that hard. Never tried it because I lift at home, but it's worth a try.

Also it's a male thing to assume that "X" person has these qualities based on looks alone also, so don't have high expectations ever.

youknowmebyanothername wrote:

I did meet my first superhot gf this way... however, not at a private gym and not girls with the fashion leggings, earbuds and studied indifference like you describe. It was at a sports oriented big public U. I trained very hard with the premier alpha group in the gym, 7500 point decathletes and worldclass TJ and 400h dudes...full disclosure lifting was my #1 sport and I held NJR at that time. Therefore my lifting was impressive even among this group and I caught the attention of superhot chick. She approached me during cooldown to ask some Qs about my comps.... and so it began.

Wait, a former champion weightlighter is now a regular on the LRC boards? What made you get into running? Are you any good at running?

Probably easier if you go to a triathlete gym, do spin classes, etc. If you hang out at a regular gym a bit you can play basketball, do other stuff to network and it could be easier, maybe, but at a lot of gyms it is 70-80% male and the odds are against you and you probably have to be the right type of alpha/predator type to really be a fit for many of the women.

A 25 yo guy in my profession who basically lives in the gym and is a very good looking guy and big met his girlfriend there. She is silly and moderately good looking, although she didn't seem broken. good luck.

rojo wrote:

youknowmebyanothername wrote:

I did meet my first superhot gf this way... however, not at a private gym and not girls with the fashion leggings, earbuds and studied indifference like you describe. It was at a sports oriented big public U. I trained very hard with the premier alpha group in the gym, 7500 point decathletes and worldclass TJ and 400h dudes...full disclosure lifting was my #1 sport and I held NJR at that time. Therefore my lifting was impressive even among this group and I caught the attention of superhot chick. She approached me during cooldown to ask some Qs about my comps.... and so it began.

Wait, a former champion weightlighter is now a regular on the LRC boards? What made you get into running? Are you any good at running?

I used to run as well before I got really good at lifting, jhs and hs. What is "good" at running? I did compete for my U. My PRs were 22.6, 49.5 and 1.58. Not ~44.0, ~1.39 and ~3.24 but OK, LOL! That was quite a few years ago. I took up strength training because I performed top of class in basic strength tests. This was because of regular farm and quarry work at weekends. Running became secondary to lifting after I won my first hs competition medal, a bronze. I trained like Allan Wells. Even the decathletes feared my workout regime. This was back in the day when the mzungu were hard.

I've been here for years and am well known. But you know me by another name, usually. Your problem is going to be that it will horrify you. I don't believe you can handle what you see as the disconnect. LLLOOOOLL!!!

Gym is just good to show your face/physique. The entire gym sees when a guy approaches a girl awkwardly. Best way is just to go to classes at the gym, and enjoy it. Then if you see the girls out at a local bar or anywhere, you can easily open with "hey you're in my yoga class. how do you like the teacher?" and then it's easy after that.

It's all about mindset:

1) I act as if I literally own the gym, and act accordingly, gracious but with some degree of pride. MC of the Party. I am on great terms with all of the staff, as I am one of the longest-standing members, and in terms of overall fitness, one of the best examples they could ever hope for (probably overall literally the fittest man in the U.S. for my age who doesn't do test or other PEDs).

2) I act as if I have already had relations with every woman in the venue, so sex is no longer a big deal between us. I give them little tasks like handing me a plate as I am racking up, compliment them after they comply.

Once we do hook up, and often it is later discontinued for whatever reason (she wants me to be her exclusive boyfriend, jealousy of other girls, etc,) it is up to her to deal with it. After all, SHE came into MY gym :) I am cordial to everybody, but since I am upfront in my demeanor and intent from the first move, any "blowback" is minimized and actually rather cute as far as I'm concerned. Of course I am careful and have avoided any drama with STIs or pregnancy, etc.. If you can't handle your business properly along these lines, you have no business dating anyway, stick to your online porn.

Yes, I'm a dicck, but not an A-hole, I love 'em all, and the dudes are cool until proven otherwise. No games, no aplologies, no problems. I made many many mistakes over the years, to arrive where I am, but avoided many more. The chances of any random runners doing this are 0.000001%

I used to be a guy who didn't have much of a chance to pick up women at the gym. I was just a skinny, awkward distance runner with untapped charisma and untapped confidence. Things have changed. This is my advice. First off, have the mindset of being there to workout. Girls don't want to deal with the creep who looks like he's there to pick up women. You can also accomplish this by wearing cool gym attire or a neat accessory. However, NO TIGHTS if you're a guy trying to pick up women at the gym. Shorts over tights is actually a way better look here than men in full blown tights. Also, remember not to push things too aggressively with her. Forcing it will be an instant turn off. If you do start talking with her, talk about gym stuff initially. It's a good idea to keep it quick, especially with a girl who is wearing a hat or headphones. Look for a high point in the interaction if you want to go in for the kill and ask her out. Also, another thing that helps is to have friends or make friends at the gym. This raises your status there and will enable her to not perceive you as desperate or creepy when you're interacting with her. Perhaps recommend she show or tell you an ab workout because I find the ladies are always working out the abs. Anyways, I hope that helps. The gym is not the best place to score a date, but I'd thought I'd throw out some advice.

So basically your strat is to be 100% congruent with what you want out of life? (or at least the gym) And you carry no shame, and people can smell that?

Wejo/Rojo do an IP check and cross reference with frequent posters please. LLLOOOOLL!!!

Working out is part of my enjoyment of life, as are friendships and relationships around that (and yes, "hooking up" is actually a form of relationship, despite the co-opting by American society of the more narrow definition to mean "exclusive"). So yes there is consistency in that, it is part of an overall healthy lifestyle. I enjoy the pleasure of work and play, and am not interested in things that aren't sustainable.

One must be willing to risk to get reward, but it must be tempered with pragmatism and experience. Yes, I "s--- where I eat" as in the same "house", just not in the same room in front of everybody else! Discretion is part of respect for self and others, not being evasive out of shame.