Came & got what I was after. Die away thread. We had a convo last night & have scheduled sex days and rest days that line up with my training. On sex days we are both allowed to initiate and on rest days only I'm allowed to initiate.
And whomever said "I think he just doesn't want you running as much" that could also be true. I know he worries perpetually about my weight and nutrition to the point where now if I'm tired or irritable or don't want to have sex his immediate response is "eat more or run less" --I think this is the root of the problem that we need to address and discuss as a couple, not the sex.
Thanks y'all...you can actually be an informative intelligent crew.