Problems with new Girlfriend..

Look at the situation more positively - she's cheating on the other guy with you. Enjoy it while it lasts and don't get involved in the drama.

TroubledGuy wrote:

I have been dating this girl on my team for about a month so far. Basically the way we got set-up is we were friendly for a while and then it just kind of happened. The issue im facing is that before we were together she had a thing with another guy, basically a "hook-up buddy," and this kid is also on our team. She broke things off pretty fast with him and the kid was upset because he wanted more. This kid is a junior, and my girlfriend and I are both seniors. She is going to his junior prom still, even though they "broke up" many months before that. I am taking her to our senior prom. Is this weird that she is still going to his prom? He also tries to text her a decent amount..

In three months, the two of you will have graduated and likely gone off to separate colleges. This new relationship won't last so realize that. Treat her well, have fun, ;but don't get attached.

Good morning. I only read the first post so no idea what others are thinking. On the surface it is a totally weird situation, but here is my read. You, your girlfriend, and the junior are probably all terribly socially awkward (no offense, of course) but also very nice people. That is the nature of 90% of track and field athletes. It is nothing to be ashamed of but it makes situations like this tougher.

So your girlfriend is too nice to have turned around and turned that fella down, while you are a bit too timid to tell her not to go, and he is too socially awkward to realize he is unwanted.

Dude, it's high school love - very typical. What your girlfriend should have realized is junior prom is stupid and not a big deal and she should have just cut the wannabe paramore off. Now it is a bit too late for that, although not if she just wants to rip the bandaid off.

This is my suggestion to you. Just chill. Junior prom is no big deal and if she likes you she won't go behind your back in front of your face so obviously. However, you should ask her to hang out the day after junior prom and have copious sex with her and basically stake your claim, so to speak. But trust me when I say young awkward love is something you will remember fondly, and not to worry about this odd situation.

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^^this.

vivalarepublica wrote:

Have a threesome.

That would be a devil's threesome.

One can not have "Problems" with a "New" Girlfriend. This is an oxymoron.

You're in high school, who cares just invite 2+ girls to the senior prom and see what happens.

I mean it's not a great situation but I remember that a lot to do with prom is set in advance, like buying a dress/renting a tux, etc., so it's not that big of a deal to me.

TroubledGuy wrote:

she already said yes to him before they ended things so that's why she's going.

When they ended things, it's apparent that things were not ended.

Ending means ending, not continuing.

See if she'll let you PIITB

Team Bartowski wrote:

In three months, the two of you will have graduated and likely gone off to separate colleges. This new relationship won't last so realize that. Treat her well, have fun, ;but don't get attached.

This is the correct advice. Relax, have fun, wear protection.

Dump her now!!!!!!!!!

That is all

I'm not saying you have to dump her or anything, but she's definitely cheated on you at least once and probably again at this prom.

had a similar situation, don't even give her a choice, tell that bitch to beat it before you get emotionally invested ; that's when you get really screwed

Ask her to video her sessions with junior and jerk off to them all day...

Gene wrote:

I'm not sure of the pronouncation but I believe it's ménage a trois.

OP, remember what we talked about? The other guy's into it!

Dude...be a real man. She's clearly not as committed to you as you are to her. So what you do is sleep with her a few times, and don't convey any affection. She doesn't share feelings for you... and she will begin to wonder "why doesn't he seem so into me anymore?" Then you go cold. You fall off the face of the earth toward her, and then she's left hating that junior after she lost something better due to her ego.

Sounds like both of you fall under her power, so it's time to let him be the only weak one left in the situation. Sack up. Do it.

Only solution...the power move wrote:

You fall off the face of the earth toward her, and then she's left hating that junior after she lost something better due to her ego.

Or, she shrugs her shoulders and moves on because OP wasn't actually any better which, is why OP posted in the first place.

TroubledGuy wrote:

I have been dating this girl on my team for about a month so far. Basically the way we got set-up is we were friendly for a while and then it just kind of happened. The issue im facing is that before we were together she had a thing with another guy, basically a "hook-up buddy," and this kid is also on our team. She broke things off pretty fast with him and the kid was upset because he wanted more. This kid is a junior, and my girlfriend and I are both seniors. She is going to his junior prom still, even though they "broke up" many months before that. I am taking her to our senior prom. Is this weird that she is still going to his prom? He also tries to text her a decent amount..

Dude you're in high school. It's guaranteed that you won't stay with this girl long term. So what if she might be banging your teammate on the side? Make sure you get as much action as you possibly can. Just wear protection and don't knock her up. After you graduate and go on to college there's a 99.9% chance you'll have to break up with her for other reasons anyway.

High school relationships aren't supposed to last beyond high school. Just enjoy the ride.