Graduating college - break up with girlfriend or not?

Cut her loose.

Here is a true story about me and my now wife.

We met and dated in college. After college I got into law school (in the north east) and she moved home (midwest) for a bit and looked for a job. This was around 2009 so the job market was awful and she had to take what she could get. She ended up in digital advertising in Chicago.

We did long distance for 3 years. Saw each other every 2 months or so. When I did write-on for Law Review, I did it in Chicago just to be with her for 2 weeks.

2L year of law school she started applying for jobs to be near me, but got nothing better than she currently had. She finally got a job and moved just as I graduated law school. We moved in together, and 2 years later got married.

Having been though a sucessful long distance relationship, here is my advice.

DON'T DO IT. If you really love the person you will do it anyway, and it will hurt. If it doesn't hurt to be apart, you shouldn't bother doing it.

True Story Here k wrote: Here is a true story about me and my now wife.

We met and dated in college. After college I got into law school (in the north east) and she moved home (midwest) for a bit and looked for a job. This was around 2009 so the job market was awful and she had to take what she could get. She ended up in digital advertising in Chicago.

Ah! That's the one! She was quite the freak when you weren't around, dude.

well wrote:

Never done this myself, but I've known people who suggest breaking up but staying as very close friends. And, once she's done with undergrad, if you still want to make it work, you can reassess. You'll have more money and she will have the freedom to choose where to do her master's.

This is honestly my favorite advice. We've been dating for almost two years and now and I don't want to lose her, but I'm at a point in my life where my career has to come first and I think the next two years will be pretty important for that.

I think I'm going to tell her where I'm at and see what she says. I'm pretty afraid what will happen when I do. We've been kind of ignoring this impending reality for as long as we could.

No one has asked it!

Pics?

break up with her so I can hit that

Break up and score with as many ladies as you can. The post college years are the best. Don't waste them thinking about your girlfriend getting banged by the football team.

A few posters have touched on the point that there is really no point in asking this question, since what will happen will happen. If you love her enough that you want to wait out the two years and continue on after, then you will try to make it happen. Contrary to what many of the past posts would suggest, this is in no way a rational decision.

Do be mindful though that number one, long distance relationships f******g suck for both parties (can't emphasize this enough. Number two, they can put a huge strain on your relationship. And number three, as you go for longer and longer without seeing her you might begin to forget why you thought waiting for two years would be worth it in the first place. She will be going through the same thing (questioning the relationship as more time passes and she meets other people). Number five, for people our age, two years is an eternity. Most people our age right now are not the same person that they were two years ago. People change, and either or both of you might change in a way that makes it harder to relate to each other when you are together. For all of these reasons long distance is really really difficult, and sometimes not worth it.

I don't mean to be too discouraging though. Bottom line: if she really is the one, and your relationship is strong enough, you probably will make it through the years with your relationship intact, and you will probably get married.

Why did the moderator delete my excellent post on the dangers of homosexuality?