RE: RelationshipDating really wasn't an issue. With her it was very easy. In her case, she never has any hidden agenda. Our relationship was basically "I like you, you like me". It grew from there, without any complications. She was seemingly assertive in that she approached me, much of which had to do with not having the normal social filters.Probably oversimplified by my wife's thinking probably went like this.I am a girl.Girls have boyfriends.He is a boy.Girls date boys.I like him.I will date him.After dating, get married.... etc.Very uncomplicated.The complications and issues came up with my expectation that she would figure out my emotional state based on normal interaction. I was assuming that she would figure out how I was feeling. After figuring out things for myself, I simply began stating how I was feeling and asking directly for whatever I needed. Men and women with autism tend to be different. Women/girls with autism tend learn to be more social. Keep in mind that your son may have concurrent issues (depression, bipolar, etc.) or possibly misdiagnosed.
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I am curious how your wife and you were able to date, build a relationship, etc, given her social and emotional limitations. My stepson has attempted several relationships since his teen years, but has always failed.
I'll have look for the Temple Grandin books. I know I must sound like an ogre, but it's so difficult, and is really stressing my marriage. It just seems like a hopeless situation.