Men: why are promiscuous women considered undesirable?

Dating sluts and whores is awesome. Honestly I have always gone for the "bad girls" and there is a huge upside, but with all things, there is a down as well.

So you get to go wild in the sack, you get to party late, but do NOT (do NOT!) get all puppy dog eyes about her and fall for her. She will move on, and you should too.

Eventually you need to find a decent girl to marry, but in HS and college why hang out with Suzy Prude when you can live out your biggest desires with a fun girl?

They aren't, as long as all you want is sex. But you might want a quality relationship, someone who makes you feel loved and supported, someone for the long term, a marriage that doesn't end with her taking half your stuff and leaving, or a mother of your children. Why would a promiscuous woman be suitable for these roles?

It has always been more useful to assess a person by what they do than by what they say. What is a promiscuous woman's behavior telling you? It is telling you that she lives in the moment and will act for her immediate gratification. It is telling you that she is ok with discarding relationships close enough to be sexual ones. It is telling you that she is often open to the next exciting thrill that comes along and thus might be about to cheat on you or leave you for the better looking guy at the gym (and there is always going to be a better looking guy at the gym.) It is telling you that she rejects some of the long held societal norms of female behavior.

Of course all that is totally her right. It is her life and her body. She can do whatever she wants with it. I am not in the least bothered when women decide to take this path. But why should a man who wants more than sex want to have a committed relationship with this person?

If you want women to be sexually free and don't care how many men your wife was with before you, why would you care if she continued to sleep around after you were married? If you don't care about numbers, why not just have an open relationship?

An elementary level understanding of statistics will help you understand that a woman who has been with a lot of dudes, has an STD (there are a number of STDs that condoms do not prevent and for the current generation they are looking at 1 in 3 with herpes, and about 1 in 2 with HPV). The religious aversion to sex outside of marriage (and the whole institution of marriage itself) is based upon thousands of years of human experience dealing with disease, orphaned children, etc. The only "progress" we have made as a society is epidemic levels of STDs (50 years ago the only STDs they taught about were Chlamydia, Gonorrhea and Syphilis, now there about 50 STIs) and record levels of children born outside of wedlock.

madmandoc wrote:

It is telling you that she rejects some of the long held societal norms of female behavior.

Of course all that is totally her right. It is her life and her body. She can do whatever she wants with it. I am not in the least bothered when women decide to take this path. But why should a man who wants more than sex want to have a committed relationship with this person?

Why is it so hard for men to imagine that a woman - while single and unencumbered - had sex with the people she wanted to have sex with?

Why are these societal norms so important? Who really cares?

Why do you harbor this fear that she will cheat on you or leave? What makes you think she is dishonest?

She had a lot fo experiences with a lot of different guys. She has decided she wants to be with you, and only you. That should be a compliment. But lots of male posters here seem to interpret this as a sign she....is not telling the truth? Where does this irrational fear come from?

SmallBoobMan wrote:

She had a lot fo experiences with a lot of different guys. She has decided she wants to be with you, and only you. That should be a compliment. But lots of male posters here seem to interpret this as a sign she....is not telling the truth? Where does this irrational fear come from?

So naive, child. She has decided that she wants to be with you in this moment. That will not likely last forever.

off base wrote:

SmallBoobMan wrote:

She had a lot fo experiences with a lot of different guys. She has decided she wants to be with you, and only you. That should be a compliment. But lots of male posters here seem to interpret this as a sign she....is not telling the truth? Where does this irrational fear come from?

So naive, child. She has decided that she wants to be with you in this moment. That will not likely last forever.

On what do you base this assumption?

What about you? Why should you be trusted?

The bottom line is we have to trust each other. The number of partners one has had seems like a puerile metric by which to measure reliability and honesty.

Have fun with your missionary style in the dark under the sheets once a mo. sex life.

I should not be trusted. That's how I know. I hate to burst your bubble, but women cheat. I have been with over a dozen married women and they all had extensive sexual history.

I prefer that the woman be very experienced. One woman I was beginning a relationship (ie, sex) with had had 33 partners, about three times as many as I'd had. I was proud of her.

off base wrote:

I should not be trusted. That's how I know. I hate to burst your bubble, but women cheat. I have been with over a dozen married women and they all had extensive sexual history.

It sounds like what you should avoid is marriage itself.

These dozen married women - how many were, "good girls" when they got married? A fair number I'd say.

madmandoc wrote:

They aren't, as long as all you want is sex. But you might want a quality relationship, someone who makes you feel loved and supported, someone for the long term, a marriage that doesn't end with her taking half your stuff and leaving, or a mother of your children. Why would a promiscuous woman be suitable for these roles?

Madonna-whore complex. Look it up. Most of you are setting yourselves up for PNSO.

I'm having a hard time understanding why having a sexually experienced partner, with an active sex life, is a bad thing.

pop_pop!_v2.2.1 wrote:

I'm having a hard time understanding why having a sexually experienced partner, with an active sex life, is a bad thing.

As long as you don't mind the fact that they will likely continue having an active sex life with people other than you, then it's not a bad thing.

It's about the semen. It travels one way: out of the man, into the woman. After sex, the woman has the man's baby batter inside her. For some period of time, it's in there.

SmallBoobMan wrote:

off base wrote:

I should not be trusted. That's how I know. I hate to burst your bubble, but women cheat. I have been with over a dozen married women and they all had extensive sexual history.

It sounds like what you should avoid is marriage itself.

These dozen married women - how many were, "good girls" when they got married? A fair number I'd say.

Marriage is not for me. I married young, was cheated on and then became a whore myself. I don't slut shame. I love sluts. I'm just warning guys who think they can real one it and she's going to be faithful. I've only know one chick with a slutty past that got married and didn't end up cheating. Overcoming desires we were programmed with is not easy and it's significantly harder for those with stronger desires.

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off base wrote:

Marriage is not for me. I married young, was cheated on and then became a whore myself. I don't slut shame. I love sluts. I'm just warning guys who think they can real one it and she's going to be faithful. I've only know one chick with a slutty past that got married and didn't end up cheating. Overcoming desires we were programmed with is not easy and it's significantly harder for those with stronger desires.

Are you busy Saturday night?

question for you wrote:

Are you busy Saturday night?

I hope to be. Tinder is the greatest thing ever invented. It's like Uber for chicks.

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Star wrote:

That used/new car analogy was terrible.

Fine, then come up with a better one.

It was bad because people will often rent a new sports car but by a used one to save money.

People are 50/50 on buying used vs new for a sports car.

How about this:

Women are like bowling shoes.

You'll rent oft worn bowling shoes when you are playing just for fun but when you are serious about bowling you will buy a brand new pair.