1) I never contacted a coach when my daughter was looking to run in college, and I have not and will not do so when my son enters the recruiting process either. I understand the role of parent here.
2) Most parents still have a strong influence on their children, and their input will be huge when it comes to making a decision. College coaches, even D1 coaches, need to keep this in mind. Many college football coaches understand this.
3) I do not need nor want any coach or team to make my kid feel wanted. That was a comment in general to coaches and teams and their failures, not about what I need or want. Go back and read...I said if they want the "best of the best" they need to do that.
4) I do not need to learn patience and control. I already have that. My kids pick the colleges they want to attend, and when they want advice from me, they ask and I give, but the bottom line is they are going to those colleges, so they get to decide where to go, assuming the finances work out.
5) I know of the sites you provided. Still not as good as what many schools do which is to write bios with times right there with the link to the athlete page from the roster. That's the way it should be done. Shows pride in the program, shows a team isn't afraid to show how their athletes do. Recruits should not have to go to another website to find the info they want. Why? Suppose a kid is interested in certain colleges. What if he's from Tennessee and is interested that there are some colleges outside of Tennessee with lots of athletes from Tennessee...this is one reason to look at the rosters...should be a one-stop shop.
6) Regarding research on my own, the very first post I made showed evidence that I have done my own research (son too). That's how I know what the shortfalls are. Any coach without a great website that has all the types of information a recruit would want without giving away any training info...well, they aren't doing as good a job as they should. The head coach, the recruiting coordinator, an assistant, someone needs to make that happen.