metrofication wrote:
Men are not meant to be like women. Men should work, build houses, make plans and execute them, sail the seven seas, fight wars, etc. And then die. Men find their friends in common hardships. In a soft society like ours, men will not thrive.
Even though you are a troll, you are 100% correct. This is why most men gravitate towards things like "hazing" and other forms of earning a position in a group. Men value loyalty and hard work, which is why my college teammates are some of my best friends 20 years after college. I went through hell with those guys and the ones who made it through with me share a connection.
Same goes for soldiers. Those guys would die for each other (do die for each other). The friendships are deep.
The idea that guys are supposed to develop close relationships over a wine and painting event with their wives is atrocious.
I have also made really close friends with guys who have been through something very difficult. Talking with them about some of the struggles I have been through makes you see them, and them see you, as a real person.
What has happened as this type of friendship has been vilified is that we get the culture of the Bros. Guys pretending to be macho. It is a total fly-in-the-face reaction to the idea that men need to be softened.
The thing is, life is fvcking hard. Men need each other. The softening of life is leading to men unraveling. Looking for uneven fights, rape culture, porn addiction. This is a side effect of taming men.