Fiance wants to bring parents on honeymoon...

postwedshut wrote:

Sadly I wish this was a joke but it isnt. Only plus I can see is maybe her parents offer to pay for everything.

I will offer to pay you to take a writing course.

we all know you will go through with it and get married and not have sex on the honeymoon

keep us posted

At first this was 0/10 and somehow it's now 9/10 with comments from the bros too.

Unreal.

postwedshut wrote:

She wants to bring them on our honeymoon, rent a house house on the beach together beach, and here is the kicker she said "do not even mention or bring sex up with me". Is this some kind of record for shut off?

Here's one interpretation:

You live together. Sex life is fine at home.

Fiancee wants a terrific vacation and wants her parents to pay for it, so they have to come. Fiancee does not want her parents to hear honeymoon sex.

Answer:

No. The Honeymoon is a ONE TIME DEAL. Tell her you can get a fancy vacation funded by her parents some other time. You can have a honeymoon in a VW camper under the stars with baby oil massages and have the time of your life. Draw a boundary between materialism/fantasy lifestyle and marriage.

If you're not a troll, have a conversation with your fiancee about this. She may be an awesome catch caught up in silly ideas. It happens.

If you are a troll, you got the bros to both post so +2

The end.

P.S. I'm a married woman.

I see two options:

The smarter option is to drop her. There are lots of women in the world and you only have one life. You seem in the fast track to miserableness. But you live together and have been together a long time so this takes real resolve.

The second option: never talk about sex, never pursue sex with her and actually show disgust at the idea of sex with her. Whoever withholds is the one who has the power. And yes I'm stealing this from Everybody Loves Raymond.

How hot is the mom?

Bop wrote:

Not in my experience wrote:

The women in my life have always craved to have sex with me.

I think women in general have higher sex drives than men do, or at least just as high.

This has been my experience as well. Especially if they have tattoos or ride horses. Although it's possible any relationship I've had with someone who seems like they will be sticks-in-the-mud about sex doesn't last long as a result (and I don't mean that they have to put out right away by this). I can't comment on what happens after marriage.[/quote]

So there is some variance here. Also, probably depends on age. Sexual desire can peak for women in early 30s as they near the end of the child bearing window, or, at least the ideal window, which for woman is obviously a much smaller window than men's window. Thus there is some biological urgency that drives women's' sex drives at particular ages. Also men that run too much can have low-t. Hence I don't date too many runners. They don't seem interested in sex often enough if they spend too much time running.

postwedshut wrote:

Its not so much the no sex on a trip that is what bothers me. It is her willingness to be so casual in just throwing "no sex" out there.

You have to run for the exit. She won't change. Even if she goes to therapy etc. she'll eventually relapse and then say "you knew I was that way before you married me."

Google up on evolutionary psychology and "the seven year itch."

You're mutual sex life is swirling down the flusher...

Update for all that posted. No more mother in law on honeymoon. Just me and the wife. Will sex happen though I will just have to wait and see.

postwedshut wrote:

Update for all that posted. No more mother in law on honeymoon. Just me and the wife. Will sex happen though I will just have to wait and see.

Better get busy on that topic between the two of you because it's not going to get better.

1) Go on the trip

2) Bang the mom while her dad records it.

3) Have the parents swap out....bang the dad while mom records.

4) Annulment upon your return to the mainland