Thinking of dumping my girlfriend because she constantly criticizes me and never thinks I'm good enough.

Wall Writing wrote:

Is it possible for them to change?

You just described her changing, so yes. And she's not done yet.

What kind of sex do you guys have?

You need to leave her. Only stay with her, if you are getting laid 5 times a week.

And then you will still be tired of her criticism for one more month.

There are many fish in the sea.

Wall Writing wrote:

Is it possible for them to change?

No.

She's probably right - you're not good enough.

stage 1 - bpd

My roommate was in your shoes. He was crazy about the girl but then she got critical. I think she didn't like some things in herself and took it out on him. Anyways, he grew a pair and broke up with her. She was shocked. He stood his ground. A few months later he met a really terrific girl who treats him with respect. They are now engaged. He just got a great promotion and they are happy as can be. Dump the downer chick and find someone who appreciates you for who you are. Life is too short to be with people who make you miserable.

Throw it back in her face but be a man about it. If I had another women half as critical as you I'd be in heaven. I'm going out tonight to look for one. I'll be back, I dunno know when.

Even if your accomplishments make you "one in a million" there is no need for her to stay with you. By the numbers there would be 7000 other guys out there just like you.

It's time you present her with the facts.

I had several LTR's like this year's ago.

Left both of them ( or they left me...not sure ).

The less mature the girl is the more problem they have holding it together.

Six months is about the max. Then the real goods show up.

If what you are describing is accurate, get out now. Don't look back or you'll turn into a pillar of salt.

A10 fan wrote:

You need to leave her. Only stay with her, if you are getting laid 5 times a week.

And then you will still be tired of her criticism for one more month.

There are many fish in the sea.

If this guy was having sex with her five times a week and she was cumming each time, she probably wouldn't be bitching at him like this. He needs to leave her

Get out now!

(or work an angle for anal, then get out)

"I'm much further ahead than she is"Further ahead....how? You're asking for relationship ship advice on a running forum, while she is checking out guys in real life and thinking how she can dump the chump.You sound like a mega loser!

Balian wrote:

I had several LTR's like this year's ago.

Left both of them ( or they left me...not sure ).

The less mature the girl is the more problem they have holding it together.

Six months is about the max. Then the real goods show up.

If what you are describing is accurate, get out now. Don't look back or you'll turn into a pillar of salt.

Thank you for this. I was in a serious LTR a few years ago and this sort of thing happened. I didn't really have the balls to confront her about it or break it off, and the thing ended up just spiraling downward into a pit of destitution and misery. Given I've already talked with my current gf about her ways with very little change, I think it's just time...

The whole thing really bothers me because I feel like we have tremendous potential, but she has this unwavering Perfect Man in her head that she compares me to. I find it ironic given she has more faults and shortcomings than I do (though I have plenty just like everyone else)... She's far from perfect, but I accept her for who she is. I don't see why it's so hard for her to do the same for me.

Wall Writing wrote:

but she has this unwavering Perfect Man in her head that she compares me to.

Cut her loose. Do not delay. It will never be what you want it to be and it will never be whatever it is she aspires to have/find.

Be sad/disappointed it didn't work out for a while, then move on.

There is zero potential with her.

Trace the pattern, she was on her best behavior for the first 5-6 months during the "honeymoon" phase, and once she thinks she's got you (consciously or sub-consciously," her control issues come out. Sounds like she is insecure and also a control freak, possibly with narcissistic tendencies (the sex is probably wild).

Trust the brothers who tell you it will only get worse. If you break up with her, she'll either demonize you, or go quiet for a while and then claim to be reformed -- don't buy it -- it will be a desperate attempt to lure you in again.

Look to her childhood how did her parents treat each other, how do they, how does she treat others, where else in her life does this show up?

Now, think about people you know who have actual healthy relationship dynamics.

6 months in and she is try to control you with criticism?

Listen to the brothers here who are telling you to get out.

Typical daddy's girl. She was told there's a prince out there, coming for her no matter how crappy imature and mad she is. She can be all that. Everything is allowed for her.

Run, mate. Just run.

Go herbivore, it's all the rage in Japan amongst younger men as women have been or are in the process of being brainwashed by (expletive deleted) feminists.

And NO it doesn't mean go vegan...look it up. Lots of info out there on Google.

Good job setting the stage for A-Q and ISIS you Lefties.