Kraftwelt wrote:
I had the unfortunate experience of being married to one. I was lucky I didn't have kids with her.
They are the most unbelievable, beautiful, pleasant people you will ever meet in the beginning. They hide their true selves so well. They sre almost like a drug to be around. You will never feel so connected to someone.
Then, at some point in the relationship, they become entirely different people. Mean, depressed, moody, critical, hateful, etc.
They take out all of their issues on you.
Mine had a boyfriend before our divorce was finalized. It is never ending cycle of misery with these people.
Get out now!!!!
Same thing happened to me. Married one and so so glad we never had kids.......
On the other thread I link to, there's a suggestion that the switch in behaviour is based around a "trigger" event. For me, it was my refusal to reduce the child maintenance I was paying for my teenage kids.
There's also the suggestion that BPD's put on an entirely fake persona and you're essentially "groomed". When she blew up out of nowhere, the way she'd win me back was by being all teary and contrite, while at the same time telling me all the filthy things she wanted to do to me.
Awesome sex is awesome sex - not something to be given up lightly. But.......your mental state and the misery this person puts you through ? Not worth it.