I almost transferred for this girl, we were very serious, but our relationship ended on very bad terms and quite suddenly.
I did not speak to her for close to three years and in a job relocation I reached out to find her and see how she was doing.
I couldn't really track her down (pre-Facebook), so I called her church and her choir teacher quizzed me quite harshly, like how could I not know something had happened, and finally she relented and said my ex had passed away a couple of years ago. I was stunned and asked what happened, when, and she didn't want to divulge any details.
I hung up, searched Google more, found an obituary that I wasn't looking for, and am at a loss.
I had moved on, I was just looking up an old friend, and it was sad. Yes, we ended harshly and not in the best way, but we were friends that had memorable times.
I heard she had a daughter and a widow, but would it kill anyone else if you didn't know what your ex died of (be it addiciton, accident, disease, natural, suicide)?