Guys that cheated on your wives....do you regret it?

Probably the best advice I can give you is pay a weekly visit to a MP and get a HE. Nothing wrong with a good manual release - relieves the tension and desire. With NO cheating.

I'm divorced. I regret NOT cheating. A lot of hot pus\sy offered itself up while I was married and I didn't jump on it. After I got separated I figured I was just gonna roll around in it like a dog on a field of carcasses but suddenly it wasn't so easy. I swear, hot women have a sixth sense about this stuff. It took over six months to really find my groove in the singles market.

Anyway, my point is, a bird in the hand is better than ten on the roof. You never know when your marriage is headed down the drain but if you're attracted to these other women, chances are it will be sooner rather than later. So just do it. Have your fun. It's a long life and you probably got married too young. Just be intelligent about it and cover your tracks. Enjoy.

I cheated on the woman that I will be marrying here in a few months. It was two months into our relationship, but I regretted it the day after I did it. She found out, and I cried like a baby and promised never to do it again. To be honest, she is the best that I can do. If you cheat, plan on getting caught and if you think you will beg for forgiveness, don't do it. If you don't care if you get caught, get a divorce.

Be a man. Don't cheat and give your marriage your best day in day out.

not so fast dude wrote:

Anyway, my point is, a bird in the hand is better than ten on the roof. You never know when your marriage is headed down the drain but if you're attracted to these other women, chances are it will be sooner rather than later. So just do it. Have your fun. It's a long life and you probably got married too young. Just be intelligent about it and cover your tracks. Enjoy.

Isn't the wife the "bird in hand"? Which means it is better to have a wife than to sleep with a bunch of "birds on the roof".

HE wrote:

Probably the best advice I can give you is pay a weekly visit to a MP and get a HE. Nothing wrong with a good manual release - relieves the tension and desire. With NO cheating.

I am not up on the lingo, what does that mean?

Xhsh72 wrote:

I am not up on the lingo, what does that mean?

Urban Dictionary, my friend.

MP..massage parlor

HE..happy ending

Ive done it a few times, felt guilty, but it's just a physical act.

As long as your other woman isnt all gooey eyed about you, go for it. it's just sex.

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It's not cheating if you don't get caught. Anonymous sex is great.

Read the other thread for more info on my situation, won't repeat it here.

I never cheated on my ex. I'm glad I didn't. She was a horrible partner and I endured horrible post nuptial shut-off. However, I stayed true to my vows and gave it all I had. I am proud of that.

I might not be the best to give advice, as I did cheat on my ex-wife, and obviously I am now divorced. I don't regret being divorced because I am with a great woman now, who I plan on marrying and who I truly feel is my soulmate. So that is all good.

But I still feel awful about cheating even if the outcome has worked. As a man, you REALLY need to live up to your vows and if you really feel you need to cheat you need to talk to your wife and tell her your feelings. Maybe there is some exploration she would agree to.

But I'm telling you, don't do it. Take the high ground and no matter what happens you can always look back and say you were honorable.

not so bitter divorced guy wrote:

I never cheated on my ex. I'm glad I didn't. She was a horrible partner and I endured horrible post nuptial shut-off. However, I stayed true to my vows and gave it all I had. I am proud of that.

Man, I wouldnt be proud of that at all. You wasted all that time letting a woman deprive you of sex. I hope you at least had some good porn.

Personally I just love woman. They tend to like me too, and when it's just thrown at you, man I cant turn it down.

My best advice: Find a group of women, pick up one of them and just crush it. I mean you bang her like a screen door in a tornado. I guarantee you will get with at least 2 more from the group.

young lad wrote:

I love my wife, we have sex weekly and our relationship is otherwise great, but I literally crave having sex with other women. I'm thinking of having fun on the side of my marriage. Has anybody here been in this situation(or similar ) and regreted it or not?

One question: how would you feel if your wife were cheating on you? What if she were drawn to men who were more attractive than you, had more money, or whatever, and acted on it. What if she was fairly satisfied with you, but always kept an eye out for something better than you. Could your ego handle that?

jizzmo wrote:

not so bitter divorced guy wrote:

I never cheated on my ex. I'm glad I didn't. She was a horrible partner and I endured horrible post nuptial shut-off. However, I stayed true to my vows and gave it all I had. I am proud of that.

Man, I wouldnt be proud of that at all. You wasted all that time letting a woman deprive you of sex.

I am proud because my word and my promises mean something to me. I am proud because I am convinced that actions reveal character.

It may be that I should have divorced my ex wife sooner. That is a hard call because we have kids together and I thought I could make it work for their sake. Cheating would never have been an action I would have been proud of.

Mos Def wrote:

I might not be the best to give advice, as I did cheat on my ex-wife, and obviously I am now divorced. I don't regret being divorced because I am with a great woman now, who I plan on marrying and who I truly feel is my soulmate. So that is all good.

But I still feel awful about cheating even if the outcome has worked. As a man, you REALLY need to live up to your vows and if you really feel you need to cheat you need to talk to your wife and tell her your feelings. Maybe there is some exploration she would agree to.

But I'm telling you, don't do it. Take the high ground and no matter what happens you can always look back and say you were honorable.

I put the chance of you cheating again at 100%. I say that not because you did it in the past, but because you believe in soulmates. Every person I know who believes in soulmates has definitely had more than one person he believed was his soulmate. It's the easiest way to justify cheating. I found my true soulmate, so I can cheat on my wife because we weren't meant to be anyway. That logic prevents you from being realistic and realizing that no one is perfect, and a marriage is hard work sometimes. Hopefully you realize that with the current one.

It wouldn't matter if he didn't know about it. She could be cheating on him now for all he knows.

That is a very good point and you may be on to something with my belief in a "soulmate." However, I do feel I learned a lot from my previous experience and I make it a point to always make sure my partner knows how valued and appreciated she is, and there is nothing I will not talk with her about. I would hope if a situation like you suggest were to occur, I could talk with her and combat the situation. I just know that I am going to do everything possible to avoid the awful mistakes I have made in the past.

exercise your empathy wrote:

young lad wrote:

I love my wife, we have sex weekly and our relationship is otherwise great, but I literally crave having sex with other women. I'm thinking of having fun on the side of my marriage. Has anybody here been in this situation(or similar ) and regreted it or not?

One question: how would you feel if your wife were cheating on you? What if she were drawn to men who were more attractive than you, had more money, or whatever, and acted on it. What if she was fairly satisfied with you, but always kept an eye out for something better than you. Could your ego handle that?

I agree with this. As long as the man doesn't care that his wife is also attracted to and having sex with other men, then it shouldn't be a problem. However, the man shouldn't have a double standard. While I don't know of an open marriage that has worked long term, it would be better to at least attempt this approach, rather than lying to an unsuspecting spouse. A spouse that is being lied to doesn't get the opportunity to decline having sex and face picking up a potentially fatal sexually transmitted disease from their cheating spouse.