Survey: How many of you married men or women have/ had affairs?

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I did it. Once. Just cause this woman coming on to me was too hot to pass up. I could even feel the entire force of God pushing me to bang her. So I did it one day when I had to "work late". Told her it was a one time thing and she agreed. Tips? Sure; be discrete, never tell the onge your cheating with any details about your real life, even lie about your real name. Good luck chap!

I've had 6 encounters during my 12 years of marriage. Mostly because the wife doesn't put out, won't do things I like, or my own curiosities. Don't ever do it with someone you know well( coworker ). Never do it at home. I dont regret it. I only see the encounters as pure lust and nothing more. Guilty, sure. But so is my wife for not doing her part. And nobody get started on why I'm a bad husband...I did my part by telling her my desires and feelings, it was up to her to follow through.

my man

Ho men... I could not agree more.

Anyway,sex is just an act... we place way too much importance on being faithfull. Is Being faithfull more important than being Happy ??? damn no !

Never.

La Banger wrote:

I've had 6 encounters during my 12 years of marriage. Mostly because the wife doesn't put out, won't do things I like, or my own curiosities. Don't ever do it with someone you know well( coworker ). Never do it at home. I dont regret it. I only see the encounters as pure lust and nothing more. Guilty, sure. But so is my wife for not doing her part. And nobody get started on why I'm a bad husband...I did my part by telling her my desires and feelings, it was up to her to follow through.

Just get a divorce. Yeah it will be rough, but the sooner you get it over with, the sooner you can resume a rational life.

You asked for rules I follow.

One of the most important rules that I follow is to keep my promises. Here's one I made 20 years ago...

"I, (name), take you, (name), to be my wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life"

I'm not planning on breaking this one.

By agreement, I was married and played around. So did my wife. I grew up with her family in an ethnic community. This was before AIDS. We divorced after the kids were out of high school. Still friends. Her Dad left me a fortune when he passed. I still see her sometimes in our community. I'm still good friends with her cousins and siblings some of whom I went to kindergarten with.

I was nailing a married woman for a few weeks last spring. Her husband was a cop. My advice? Don't bang someone whose significant other carries a gun.

biological male wrote:

I figured since this was an anonymous board you all would be honest. So how many of you have had or currently have affairs with other another person(s)? Do you feel guilty? Once you do it is it easier to do from then on? Any tips on how not to get caught or rules that you follow so as not to be caught? And what caused you to seek satisfaction from other people in the first place?

You men getting it on the side and trying to hide it from your wives are cowards. What the hell? You don't just tell your wife what you want and then hope passively that she provides. You tell her what you want and you tell her that if she can't provide it that you will have to get it elsewhere...you TELL her that. Now, if the thing you want will cause her physical pain, then you are a douche for asking her to do that; if it's pretty standard stuff and she refuses, then she's got a choice to make, AND you really should have made sure she was ok with this before you got married. If she used to do something that she won't do now, then again, she's got a choice to make; she can divorce you or stay married to you while you go get it elsewhere. Keep everything out in the open. The sneaking around is for cowards...seriously. Grow a pair you babies.

Well.... wrote:

"I, (name), take you, (name), to be my wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life"

I'm not planning on breaking this one.

Where in all those words does it say you can't bang that little cuttie with the tight ass and perky tits a few cubicles down?

Happily married 15 years, 4 kids, decent sex life.

1 b******* from a hooker in a bar

5 or 6 hand jobs from strippers

I don't consider this cheating, but I don't tell my wife about it either.

Great marriage, no need to divorce, 4 young kids, happy at home, good sex (i.e. oral/anal) at least once a week. But every once in a while an opportunity presents it self and I have to scratch that itch.

happily married wrote:

1 b******* from a hooker in a bar

Funny, I didn't realize that word was censored. Let's try this:

1 blowjob from a hooker in a bar

Anyway, IMHO, the biggest risks of cheating are:

1. Pregnancy, would ruin your family, life, etc unless she aborted (many women won't)

2. STD (use protection, even my blowjob from a hooker with a rubber and I still came easily)

3. Emotional attachment. That's why I prefer hookers and strippers, simply a business arrangement. No falling in love, or a girl calling my cell phone, no names exchanged, no risk of anyone finding out, etc.

That makes no goddamn sense. Why the hell would you risk a b****** from some skank as dirty as that if you are getting oral from your wife weekly? And handjobs? Are you in junior high?

Ok, got the clarification on the b******. Still don't see the point, a covered BJ sucks compared to a regular one. And if your wife is doing that (many don't), just don't see the point my man.