Any married couples been in the 100 day club?

I think that's kind of the point... feeling forced to do something 100 days in a row makes you appreciate it more when you want to do it, and understand better why you're saying no when you don't. Plus it can remind you how much fun it can be to do it on a more frequent basis.

I think your mistake here is the assumption that the 100 day sex is always between you and your wife. Nothing in the initial contract excludes a little bit of 'strange'. This is what will really spice up the sex life. You will definitely have a good time. True, this method does occasionally cause problems in the marriage, but it is still fun and I highly recommend it!!

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It's called a quickie, and they're good for you sometimes.

Louis Althusser would probably agree with the guru. Our beliefs and feelings are as much a response to our behaviors as our behaviors are a response to our beliefs and feelings.

More sex=a heightened awareness of your personal identity as part of a couple. It makes you more empathic and increases affection.

And how the hell have you stayed together for 17 years without having sex after fighting?

Althusser killed his wife!

HAHA, I forgot about that!

Your wife should be mad at you. You should have at least attempted it. Who cares if it failed. Most likely at some point, she'd probably realize that 100 might be a bit unrealistic for her anyway. At least you tried something that SHE wanted to do to try to make YOUR marriage better. She would appreciate it and you. Not cool turning her offer down man. And think about that minute...you turned down sex. Wow.

And sex with your wife can ONLY occur in the context of romance? Damn what a boring life you must lead. If the wife is feeling randy, climb on dude! And think about this, too: it wouldn't feel rote and repetitive at first, because there's some reason to be doing it, right? It might get her excited that you're embarking on some new adventure. Maybe the new adventure could manifest itself as some new positions or old forgotten ones or even something like that old-time thing called shower sex that you used to have way back when, or that forgotten old friend a b******* that you used to get way back when. Seriously, think of the potential here. And who knows, maybe, just MAYBE you could find yourself ever more attracted to your wife of 17 years or feeling more romantical thoughts than you've felt in years due to kids, jobs, housework, etc, life, etc. How on earth could this be a bad thing? I mean you really think sex with your wife is something you're being forced to do? That is just SAD. It's been said before, and it's trite, but I'll say it again because it's true: Sex is like pizza. Even when it's bad, it's still pretty damn good.

photo_finish_ftw wrote:

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It's called a quickie, and they're good for you sometimes.

I'm not a troll. Here's the link to the story. My wife saw the couple interviewed on the Today Show.

For all the posters who think it's a good idea, I still disagree. And no one has actually posted that they've actually done it themselves.

Her "time of the month" would be fun. Or not.

After all you've read about post nuptial shutoff on LR, and all the sad stories of sexless marriages, how could you turn down the chance for sex for 100 straight days? Most guys here won't have sex 100 times again in their whole lives. You had a chance to be a hero for so many, but you selfishly opted out. SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!

Isn't this the exact same concept as the post-nuptial shut off--only reversed?

Stunts like this are a reflection of just how fraught sexuality has become in contemporary life. We're unable to live up to the contemporary sexual ideal, so we either refuse sex entirely or plunge into it absolutely.

This is not to say that it would be a bad idea as a therapeutic tool. It would get you talking about sex and thinking about sex, together. Which would make you, as a couple, more intelligent about sex. And maybe give you two some power to create your own sexual ideal, apart from the mad roar of our hyper-sexualized lives. If you can do these things without the 100 day stunt, then it's unnecessary. But if you can't, then maybe it's worth a shot.

Buck Creamjeans wrote:

After all you've read about post nuptial shutoff on LR, and all the sad stories of sexless marriages, how could you turn down the chance for sex for 100 straight days? Most guys here won't have sex 100 times again in their whole lives. You had a chance to be a hero for so many, but you selfishly opted out. SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!

I believe we already have a healthy sex life. I'm not sure what doing it for 100 straight days would prove. It sounds more like a gimmick to me.

If you read the NY Post story I posted, you will see that after 101 straight days of sex the couple 'was exhausted and took a month off from sex." Huh?? Is that what sex is supposed to be between two people who love each other? Some kind of endurance test, like an ultra marathon?

Your mother told you there can be too much of a good thing, and she's right. I predict this couple files for divorce in a few years. They did it for 101 days. They wrote a book about it and made money. Great. But first of all, no one can verify that they actually did it 101 straight days. They could be lying out their asses. And second, whether they did it or not, there's no proof in any way that it will help their marriage.

Stamina Stan wrote:

[Is that what sex is supposed to be between two people who love each other? Some kind of endurance test...

There are worse descriptions.

Your mother told you there can be too much of a good thing, and she's right. I predict this couple files for divorce in a few years. They did it for 101 days. They wrote a book about it and made money. Great. But first of all, no one can verify that they actually did it 101 straight days. They could be lying out their asses. And second, whether they did it or not, there's no proof in any way that it will help their marriage.

The fact that you are concentrating on whether or not they actually "did it"--whatever is meant by "it"--for 101 days straight means that you are missing the point absolutely.

Stamina Stan wrote:

... And no one has actually posted that they've actually done it themselves.

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Here's one.

I've been married for 19 years. My wife and I have had sex at least twice a day every single day since before getting married. That makes somewhere around 7000 days straight and counting.

Honestly I don't understand anyone who would live without daily sex at least until age 60 or so.

Buck Creamjeans wrote:

After all you've read about post nuptial shutoff on LR, and all the sad stories of sexless marriages, how could you turn down the chance for sex for 100 straight days? Most guys here won't have sex 100 times again in their whole lives. You had a chance to be a hero for so many, but you selfishly opted out. SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!

Amen to this

deleuze wrote:

Your mother told you there can be too much of a good thing, and she's right. I predict this couple files for divorce in a few years. They did it for 101 days. They wrote a book about it and made money. Great. But first of all, no one can verify that they actually did it 101 straight days. They could be lying out their asses. And second, whether they did it or not, there's no proof in any way that it will help their marriage.

The fact that you are concentrating on whether or not they actually "did it"--whatever is meant by "it"--for 101 days straight means that you are missing the point absolutely.

I don't think so. If a couple claims to have had sex for 101 straight days, and actually didn't, then they are trading on a lie and their contention that it makes a marriage stronger is complete BS.

Here's my point: My wife and I have never had sex for 100 straight days (or even close to that), and I love her dearly and believe we have a good marriage. I don't need to partake in some reality tv-esque stunt on the very shaky theory that it will make things better. You think otherwise. Great. Good for you. Now, if you're married, I suggest you get after it yourself with your wife (or husband if you're a woman) and report back to us on or about March 10th to let us know how it went.

Noone Again wrote:

Stamina Stan wrote:

... And no one has actually posted that they've actually done it themselves.

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Here's one.

I've been married for 19 years. My wife and I have had sex at least twice a day every single day since before getting married. That makes somewhere around 7000 days straight and counting.

Honestly I don't understand anyone who would live without daily sex at least until age 60 or so.

bullshit.

You've never been away for work? Never had the flu and felt like crap? Wife never had the flu? Do you have kids? If so, did you have sex twice the day after she delivered?

Obviously your post wasn't serious, but it cannot be overemphasized how almost impossible what you claim is.

How many women do you think will actually fall for this?

I do not think it's natural for a runner (or any hobby jogger) to run every day for 100 straight days. If training really is stress + adaptation, then it has to involve much more than merely putting in the miles. It must be done in the context of recovery - a full eight hours sleep the night before, no lingering aches and pains, etc... And this set of circumstances is NEVER going to happen every single day for 100 straight days, especially when you've got to pay the bills or make the grades, raise the kids, do the dishes and laundry, have a little fun. The only way I could run every day for 100 straight days is if I, on many occasions, just forced myself out the door in the morning come hell or high water. That means when I only got six hours of sleep, tough crap - I'm putting in an hour before going to work. How the hell is that good for a runner?

Plus, it would surely take a toll on my sex life.