Stop babying this loser by 'affirming' his idiosyncratic 'desires.' life is about work, that's what it means to be a human. a couple thousand years ago if you didn't work your ass off you died, pure and simple. what makes us different from monkeys? we build stuff. lots of stuff. we transform the world around us, to make ourselves comfortable, to make life enjoyable. odds are this loser, when he goes off to relax and find himself, is going to be employing a whole lot of the vast technological and engineering marvels humanity, collectively, has created over our 2500 year history. (i mean history in terms of when civilizations really started up; im no stoopid xtian who thinks the universe started 4grand anos pasado) and so if he just takes that, doesn't contribute to his own or society's betterment, he is failing what it means to be a person, what it means to live a meaningful human life. go ahead and smoke yourself stupid on a beach in goa; but don't pretend to be enjoying yourself and thereby finding some kind of faux-meaning. you're just being a pig, rutting in the mud and eating slop, wallowing in sensuous pleasure with no sense of self and self-consciousness. the point of running is that we make ourselves better, that we put work into ourselves. work is what it's all about.