Michael R. wrote:
phillie,
I most definitely have strong feelings for both. The reason I did not bring emotions up is because it is a dead heat. That is why logistics is even in play. Most situations like this are easy to deal with: choose the person you feel stronger about or enjoy spending more time with. But again, it is a COMPLETE tie on that end. I am very afraid of hurting either of them, and I feel that a decision sooner than later would save a lot of pain.
Whoops, didn't see that it's only been two months. The last girl I dated for the first time (I tend to revisit women who I've already dated) wanted something serious after only two months, and frankly I hadn't become attached to her yet (probably because we hadn't slept together- that tends to get me attached), but decided to go for it anyway. My logic was eerily similar to yours- strong physical attraction, enjoyed her company, nice family, stable, etc. It made sense that I would eventually fall for her, so I took the plunge. That was the worst decision that I could have made because we ended up sleeping together, I never ended up falling for her, and I ended up being a "good boyfriend" for 4 months, but never wanting to play the part. I only played the part so she wouldn't feel completely devastated by everything that happened. I still feel like garbage for doing that, even though from her perspective it seems like nothing more than an "honest" relationship that didn't work out. So, drawing from that experience, I highly recommend that you give it more time. Tell both women that you're not sure that you're ready for a serious relationship yet, but that you are very interested in them and want to give it more time. If one runs off and the other is willing to give you more time... then you have your answer.