Parents getting a divorce.........Mom stressing me out.............Advice needed PLEASE!

Help her find a job.

You sound like a little whining bitch. Go home and help your mom out you ungrateful kid. "I'm really involved with school and running..." Guess what, sometimes there's more important things. Go home and be of some help to your mom. She probably needs help moving, chores, and other stuff around the house.

Could she move in with you?

Pics of mom?

sounds like she needs to see a lawyer....with him making that much, she needs some alimony

She should have thought about that before she began the post-nuptial shutoff.

uh_no wrote:

sounds like she needs to see a lawyer....with him making that much, she needs some alimony

Exactly. She's all set. If she needs to support her daughter then the daughter must be under 18 which means child support. She'll get about a 3rd of the $120,000.

Your dad will have to pay child support, and your mom will most likely figure things out when she get through the 'acute' phase of her distress. She has ben dependent on her husband for a long time and her productive faculties have atrophied, but she will adapt to her new conditions once they've been imposed on her. My advice is that you shouldn't try to save your mom from herself. Your self-sacrificial efforts to help her might even have the unintended consequence of holding her back and retarding her progress when she learns to rely on you rather than herself.

you are so immature dude. he is asking for advice, not bullcrap that he already has on his head.

collegeinabind... there really is nothing you can do. she may hate you for it, but she'll move along. trust me , you have a life and you deserve to spend it however you want. you will regret it later if you move in with you're mom again. you even said it yourself that there's nothing you can do about it. i know this answer is harsh, but it's the truth. remember, its you're life, not hers.

either get support from your dad, take out loans for school or reapply for financial aid with your mom the only provider. or just run faster and get a scholarship. Then tell your mom she doesn't have to support you anymore.

geezzz wrote:

You sound like a little whining bitch. Go home and help your mom out you ungrateful kid. "I'm really involved with school and running..." Guess what, sometimes there's more important things. Go home and be of some help to your mom. She probably needs help moving, chores, and other stuff around the house.

I totally agree. dude think about how much your mom has provided for YOU! She has brought you up in a great life (im assuming from the fact that you sound responsible and in a good school) and now it is time for you to do something for her! Get off your high horse and help her out... who the hell are you to think you're a bigger person? Family comes first... always. think about it. i'm sure she'd be there for you if you needed her as bad as she needs you. you will have plenty of time for school and running... not everyone has plenty of time to spend with family.!!!

I think that LETSRUN.COM should be about running. Is this really the best place to discuss your problems or ask for advice? Talk to your relatives, friends, priest, etc...someone you know. If I have a problem, let me say that the first place I choose to seek answers is not a running forum. That's just idiotic.

I think the best thing to do is find some real friends that you can actually look at and know their names. Although the "logical" thing to do is to post on a forum where you don't know anyone personally...especially one focused on running. I mean i would give you a little bit of help if you had posted this on a divorce forum, or a forum for guys with personal problems, but you posted on a running forum. I think there are few worse things that you could have thought of. Plus, I'm sure that your parents would really respect that you posted their personal incomes and their very technical situation. Plus, if you are over 18 years old, i'm disappointed that your education or developed social skills have lead you to resort to a running problem. With all that said, I wish you the best of luck.

I think the best thing to do is find some real friends that you can actually look at and know their names. Although the "logical" thing to do is to post on a forum where you don't know anyone personally...especially one focused on running. I mean i would give you a little bit of help if you had posted this on a divorce forum, or a forum for guys with personal problems, but you posted on a running forum. I think there are few worse things that you could have thought of. Plus, I'm sure that your parents would really respect that you posted their personal incomes and their very technical situation. Plus, if you are over 18 years old, i'm disappointed that your education or developed social skills have lead you to resort to a running problem. With all that said, I wish you the best of luck.

This is a running forum dude. I know better places for this.

Great post, marijuologist.OP: tough situation, I feel for you. You have your own life, and I don't think there is anything you can do that's going to make your mom feel better. She's using the money as an excuse (she knows that she will get alimony sooner or later, and she's ll be OK financially). She's hurt and (selfishly) wants attention/love/support and someone to listen to her. You should be there to listen (a little), but I also think you have to preserve your own sanity and just enjoy being young and in college. She's an adult, and it's not a life or death situation. She will get over it, hopefully.My boyfriend's mom divorced 20 years ago, is still 'single' and talks about her bad dates (especially with me, yikes) and how lonely she is. She is very needy with my bf (guilt trips all the time--"why don't you spend more time with me, your own mother?"). That's just the way it is.

marijuologist wrote:

Your dad will have to pay child support, and your mom will most likely figure things out when she get through the 'acute' phase of her distress. She has ben dependent on her husband for a long time and her productive faculties have atrophied, but she will adapt to her new conditions once they've been imposed on her. My advice is that you shouldn't try to save your mom from herself. Your self-sacrificial efforts to help her might even have the unintended consequence of holding her back and retarding her progress when she learns to rely on you rather than herself.

Doesn't your father have any responsibility in all of this -to help support you and your sister? You seem to be letting him completely off the hook.

WOW, I didn't expect but a few responses. I guess I should have mentioned that my mom lives on the West coast (Washington) and I go to school all the way in North Carolina so it would be VERY difficult for me to go back and forth to help her when I have already committed to a job at school which starts in 2 weeks when school gets out!

I should have known better than to post this on letsrun, but I was looking for someone that may have gone through this as I don't know anyone personally who has. For those of you that gave serious respones thank you. I'll probably end up moving back home to Washington but it will mean that I have to give a great job that I worked hard to get, which does suck (not to mention giving up summer school), but family is more important.

J.G.

Thank you for the kind words and advice, really, I truly appereicate it!

J.G.