So I\'ve had this boyfriend for about 6 months who changes his mood more than a menopausal woman. He loves me one day, the next he wants to be back in his single life. I\'ve tried so damn hard to be patient with him, but I\'m at my wits end. I can\'t take it anymore. He\'s driving me insane. What\'s up with this?
He loves you when he's horny. He's not interested after beating off. Maybe if put out regularly he would want you to stick around.
if YOU put out...
Yeah, Thanks for the clarification there Guppy
Sounds like one of those depressed Kurt Cobain types. Get rid of him before he kills himself and you will feel a lot less guilt.
Its not men, its *a* man, don't go around ruining the rest of our reputations.
"men" are not hot and cold. this guy is hot and cold. admittedly, many men are, but dont generalize about them all. secondly, this relationship is not going to turn around for you. he'll eventually talk himself out of wanting to be with you, and it sounds like hes been trying. hes probably just worried about not being able to get someone else, and thats why he hasnt dumped you yet. move on.
Annoyed and pissed wrote:
So I've had this boyfriend for about 6 months who changes his mood more than a menopausal woman. He loves me one day, the next he wants to be back in his single life. I've tried so damn hard to be patient with him, but I'm at my wits end. I can't take it anymore. He's driving me insane. What's up with this?
Why not dump him? If you aren't happy with his moods, move on. Not sure why people bitch and complain about partners, but stay with it.
How old is he? How old are you? I'm serious...
Most likely you're just a bad girlfriend.
Buy a gun.
I'm 25 he's 26. Sorry about generalizing. I'm just pissed. I know not all men are like this.
is he a manbitch?
Annoyed and pissed wrote:
I'm 25 he's 26. Sorry about generalizing. I'm just pissed. I know not all men are like this.
Interesting. I was expecting you to say he was 23. If he is not really touchy when you are in public (like he wants to be with you but not hold your hand or put his arm around you), then I bet he's wanting company but is hoping for "someone better." I dont mean to come off as flipant but this is not unusual for young men. If you're really attractive, not controlling and fun to be around, then find another guy! He doesnt appreciate you. If you're of average looks but the other two apply and he is really attractive...then he is probably using you until he can find (in his mind) someone better.
Everybody has some baggage, im assuming youre not carrying alot. If you honestly like him, and you know he likes you then you might be dealing with a person who just doesnt have the capacity to connect. I would suggest looking very hard at this relationship. I suspect it wont get better. The quicker you make changes for yourself, the better off you'll be.
I do admit i dont have enough details, but you seem decent enough to get an honest answer from an old guy who's been through this
Girl, it never gets better. A previous poster already said this, but it bears repeating: whether he's conscious of it or not, he's not in love with you. I'm not sure if that's what you want out of it or not, but if it is, you're in trouble. If he's a really nice guy, he might stick around for a while so as not to hurt your feelings...and it may even be a LONG while. That's bad news, and makes your life a living hell later; best to get out now.
At 25 you should have enough life experience to work this out for yourself.
We don\'t know the guy so we are not really in a position to comment specifically.
Here are some options.
You are his number 2.
He is frightened of getting Hurt.
He doesn\'t care.
You are overbearing and he wants some space.
He runs 150 miles a week.
He is really a Woman in disguise.
He is gay and is still in the closet.
He is Married.
His mother doesn\'t like You.
As far as I am concerned, the original title of this could have easily been "Why are women so hot and cold?" Until the end of this pas Sept. I had spent well over year, and actually a lot more time, going through exactly the same thing - but I am an American guy, and she is/was a French woman. Now admittedly we had more history behind us than you two, but it was just as much of a headach and heartache. Mostly over the phone things would be OK,, though not always, and then when i would visit or she would, she was 99% iceberg - physically and emotionally. I have come to believe that this is her relationship pattern, and that perhaps she is chronically depressed and has been so for a long time. Some people just have relationship/commitment issues that you cannot fix.
So, my advice, is whether or not you have anything going for yourself, and of course how could you not, you are reading/posting on here (!) is to GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!
By the way, because i didn't see this already. Pics?
I give it a 10% chance that the original poster is female.
sorry, but he only loves you during sex. he doesn't find much else interesting about you. dump him and move on unless you don't mind your relationships solely built on sex.
You're dating a homosexual.