Lunch with Ex-GF and a note

Call her, do the lunch thing and report back!!

Let her go

sentimental, wants to relive old times and escape the present, will not risk much at the expense of her child but wants to feel alive again

It probably means you were a good guy and she enjoyed that part of her life. Hell, you may have even set the standard of what she wanted in a man to which everyone else she dated had to measure up. Women are sentimental, I doubt she is looking for an affair, but I could be wrong.

Thread Killer wrote:

It probably means you were a good guy and she enjoyed that part of her life. Hell, you may have even set the standard of what she wanted in a man to which everyone else she dated had to measure up. Women are sentimental, I doubt she is looking for an affair, but I could be wrong.

What Thread Killer said.

I have been lucky with maintaining good relationships with the exGFs from relationships that ended on positive notes.

An ex gave me a poem that I hung onto and still read from time to time. It's not a personal love letter like this was, but a simple poem that she said captures the way she feels about me. There's no interest in ever getting back with her, but it's a nice pick-me-up when I read it.

I don't know what this gal's deal is, but since she's married and has a family I'd play it pretty safe. If she went home that night and told her husband that she hung out with you for 2.5 hours then their relationship is probably great, but this might be something that she would keep from him, especially if he's a jealous type. I would be reluctant to meet up next time you're in Toronto (2 months doesn't seem like that far out) but I might give her a call at some point. If I did call her again, I'd make an effort to ask how her husband and child are, just so she knows you think about them. Her relationship is probably safe, but you don't want to become her secret lunch buddy, especially if she still has feelings for you. That just creates a bad situation for everyone.

distorted thoughts wrote:

sentimental, wants to relive old times and escape the present, will not risk much at the expense of her child but wants to feel alive again

This about sums it up. REMAIN that "good guy," because ANY OTHER ACTION will screw it up for a WHOLE LOTTA FOLKS.

If you really wanna be Mr. Suave (in a holistic sense), get her talking about how great her husband is, and her family in general. She'll leave thinking what a great guy YOU are, and then mebbe she'll screw the heck outten her hubby.

Good karma all around.

dont turn down good p*ssy. even if its a one night stand you owe it to yourself to tag that.

Excellent post!

Women are always frameworking even if it's played off as innocent. They are always working on the next one even if it never comes to it. That way, when the current beau messes up then they'll have that safety net.

And they say that men are afraid of commitment!

Stay away from her...too much potential for drama, guilt. Unless, you can ask her to intro you to her single girlfriends so you can hook up while in Toronto.

I mean, why bother hanging out with a married ex girl friend? If it was your wife wanting to hang out with an ex BF that used to bone her would you like that?

What is in it for u to hang out with her?

Too much drama, and potential for trouble and jealousy. Does her Husband know? Are they both mentally sound? What if someone saw you two having lunch that knew the Husband, would it create potential trouble. The down side is greater then the upside.

Stay away.....this is bad karma.

By the way there are tons of hot single women in Toronto......MOVE ON!

Sunshine???

I say it all depends who the husband is. If he's an a-hole douchebag, then by all means try and get with her again and ruin his life. But if he seems like a good, down to Earth guy, move on.

That's my opinion..

Why are you bringing this up on a running site?

Its that time of year(Christmas+ New Years) when women begin to get nostalgic. It's a phase that begins a week or so after thanksgiving and passes roughly a day or 2 after New Years.

It is nothing special. This is normal. Nothing has changed, continue on with your life.

Munson, R.E. wrote:

An ex gave me a poem that I hung onto and still read from time to time. It's not a personal love letter like this was, but a simple poem that she said captures the way she feels about me. There's no interest in ever getting back with her, but it's a nice pick-me-up when I read it.

I suspect this is exactly the case with the OP's situation. She keeps it around to look at because it gives her some personal affirmation. Some women don't have that and so have to go out and flirt a lot or give out their number to guys so they'll call even though the women have zero intention of ever seeing them again. It's about the ego-stroke involved. As a gender, women are much more insecure than men (for societal reasons, certainly) and so they tend to crave ego-strokes a lot more than men do.

Agent Orange is right, too. Like Chris Rock said, hardly any women have male friends, women always want to have easily accessible emergency dick.

Could be that both concepts are at work here.

I would completely agree with deuce here... i've seen it year after year with both men and women. there's something about this time of year... but definitely let her go. move on. there's a reason it didn't work out the first time.

she's who she's supposed to be with. you're where you are supposed to be in life- and as it was said before, there's no reason to hurt or have other people question her or you.

You're heading for what we call an 'Afternoon Delight'!

Gonna find my baby, gonna hold her tight

Gonna grab some afternoon delight

My motto's always been 'when it's right, it's right'

Why wait until the middle of a cold dark night?

When everything's a little clearer in the light of day

And we know the night is always gonna be there any way

Thinkin' of you's workin' up my appetite

Looking forward to a little afternoon delight

Rubbin' sticks and stones together makes the sparks ingite

And the thought of lovin' you is getting so exciting

Sky rockets in flight

Afternoon delight

Afternoon delight

Afternoon delight

Started out this morning feeling so polite

I always though a fish could not be caught who wouldn't bite

But you've got some bait a waitin' and I think I might try nibbling

A little afternoon delight

Sky rockets in flight

Afternoon delight

Afternoon delight

Afternoon delight

Please be waiting for me, baby, when I come around

We could make a lot of lovin' 'for the sun goes down

Thinkin' of you's workin' up my appetite

Looking forward to a little afternoon delight

Rubbin' sticks and stones together makes the sparks ingite

And the thought of lovin' you is getting so exciting

Sky rockets in flight

Afternoon delight

Afternoon delight

Afternoon delight

Afternoon delight!

Don't be a fag. Get an ass picture of her mom ! If she her mom has a tight ass then you know that what you are going to be banging 20 years from now is good, then marry the white bitch. If her mom is a fat whale then move on.

Even if she is trolling for an affair, you are definitely NOT the guy to give it to her. Have lunch again if you want, but don't try to take it any farther.