this is mostly directed towards guys
How important is a woman's appearance/beauty compared to personality and other factors. It constantly bothers me that i'm simply of "average" beauty and it kills me that my roommate can roll out of bed looking prettier than i'll ever be.
at least i can beat her on the track
how important is a guy's appearance to you?
I think that some level of attraction is required for a relationship to be fun and exciting, but my standards are not incredibly high. At the risk of sounding like a horrible person, I will resort to the classic 1-10 scale... I would say that I am at least an 8, if not a 9/10, objectively, but I would be perfectly willing to date or even marry someone in the 4-5 range.
It's very, very hard to find someone with a great personality. I am extremely picky when it comes to personality, considerateness, honesty, intelligence, etc. Can't have it all, so I don't worry all that much about looks, as long as I am attracted to her.
It is hard to date someone that you (individually) don't find attractive. However, there is no universal rule to physical beauty. And people that I haven't found physically attractive at first glance became quite beautiful once I got to know them. A good personality can make you prettier in people's eyes. : )
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It depends on the whole package. Do you have avg looks with a nice a$$ and rack? Or avg looks, flapjacks and no a$$? Big difference.
Beauty is a great "hook"... it gets you in the door.
BUT, in the end, being smart, rational, and having a good personality is necessary to support the overall package.
I married a hottie, but only after I discovered she had an incredible sense of humor, was rational, and was an engaging conversationalist...hell, she's even helped my career because of it!
Shes gotta have nice tits... and skinny. 36c, 115lbs, 5'3" dark hair... yummy
Wad wrote:
Beauty is a great "hook"... it gets you in the door.
BUT, in the end, being smart, rational, and having a good personality is necessary to support the overall package.
I married a hottie, but only after I discovered she had an incredible sense of humor, was rational, and was an engaging conversationalist...hell, she's even helped my career because of it!
Hey ,what's the name of the strip club you own?
I own a chain called that has two different working names:
The Landing Strip, in various locations, and;
The Runway...in WDC
agreed, beauty makes up about 20% or less of I look for in a woman, but if I don't find her attractive then she has no chance.
GLee wrote:
It is hard to date someone that you (individually) don't find attractive. However, there is no universal rule to physical beauty. And people that I haven't found physically attractive at first glance became quite beautiful once I got to know them. A good personality can make you prettier in people's eyes. : )
Good answer. I've had the same experience. I'm not so sure if it works the same for women but maybe a good personality makes up for lack of money, etc. that women place more emphasis on.
Beauty is probably about 80-90% to me. Even then it's really all about the body. I don't care a lot about faces - they make bags to hide those.
There has to be an acceptable level of attractiveness, but once that threshold has been met, additional beauty doesn't mean a whole lot compared to personality, brains, compatibility.
If I'm going to put up with all that bullshit, she better be able to get Hermies attention.
How important is a woman's beauty?
It will be more important to some guys than to others, but some level of attraction is important. If you are in fairly good shape, (which you are because you are a runner)and take care of yourself there will be guys that are interested in you. Dressing nicely, taking good care of your hair etc. can go a long way. Do the best you can with what you have.
I am of course impressed with a beautiful woman, but the ones I tend to fall for do not usually catch my eye at first. They are just "alright" looking to me and then they become more and more beautiful as I get to know them, untill I see more beauty in them than the "10" walking around campus.
If you are still in school, beauty is incredibly important to a guy. There are simply too many women floating around to be satisfied with an average looking woman.
Once you start working, there is a smaller selection of women and it becomes less important.
plain jane wrote:
this is mostly directed towards guys
How important is a woman's appearance/beauty compared to personality and other factors. It constantly bothers me that i'm simply of "average" beauty and it kills me that my roommate can roll out of bed looking prettier than i'll ever be.
at least i can beat her on the track
You're at the head of the class and there's no reason to worry about anyone else.
How well a woman takes care of herself is the most important item to me, being healthy and fit, having good habits, being clean and organized. A good personality a plus but is down the line a ways and not a requirement. Good communication skills, meaning being responsible and reliable are a must but really it comes down to being compatible and being able to live your lives better with each other than without.
I have zero interest in any beauty queens or any drama queens either.
Im to the point in my life, where after having dated/hooked up/dealt with a number of pretty darn "hot" chicks, that when I see a really hot chick I find them sort of grotesque. My wang may still stir a little ,but I know what a holy hell of a nightmare she probably is. Insane, self-centered, neurotic, cripplingly vain., probably hasnt had a BM in 8 days cause her diet for the last 2 years has been EXlAX smoothies, ciggarettes, tic-tacs and a teaspoon of cheezewizz. Thats basically what flashes through my head.
Anyway, I find an "average" looking gal with a nice body, and a dash of nympho, irresistable.
Take care of yourself and do what comes naturally. If youre running, your ahead of the game.
I could have sworn you also own a place called Home Plate, but I might be mistaken.
Wad wrote:
I own a chain called that has two different working names:
The Landing Strip, in various locations, and;
The Runway...in WDC
Here's the thing. A lot of these guys are saying the "right" answer, which is that it matters initially, but there are bigger factors such as personality and intelligence that end up playing a larger role.
But in practice, I think we place a lot more emphasis on looks than we're willing to admit. We may not even be aware we're doing it.