Living at home pro's and con's?

Join the Coast Guard or join the LDS church and serve a mission. Either one its up to you but get out of the house.

Dear LetsRun wrote:

Join the Coast Guard or join the LDS church and serve a mission. Either one its up to you but get out of the house.

Take a year off from school to actual figure out really what you want to do. Get a full time job/start to work full time and SAVE your money, at least 75% of it. You can run, work and rest at home for that whole year. After that year is over, evaluate what you have left/saved and figure out what is the best option to use this so that you benefit it and profit from it to the very last dollar.

20 year old wrote:

I'm 20 years old, and I currently live at home with my parents while working part-time and attending junior college.

I've found it: the quintessential letsrun poster!

Flame on! wrote:

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I'm 20 years old, and I currently live at home with my parents while working part-time and attending junior college.

I've found it: the quintessential letsrun poster!

Nah, close. The age needs to be 30.

no. drop everything and go on a cross country journey. sell all your possessions and give the money for charity. material goods = overrated.

live life to the fullest, not cramped up with a bunch of politicos trying to 'get ahead'.

Sal Paradise wrote:

no. drop everything and go on a cross country journey. sell all your possessions and give the money for charity. material goods = overrated.

live life to the fullest, not cramped up with a bunch of politicos trying to 'get ahead'.

What the hell are you talking about??

I’m 23 and still live at home. I have been through exactly this same crisis continually over the last four years.

Like you, I started out living at home while attending community college and working (both part-time) and running on my own. I left home shortly two years ago to attend university, but dropped out during my first term and came home. Now I work full-time and am in the early stages of starting a small business.

I passionately, passionately, passionately hate living with my family, and I strongly regret that I am in a position of any kind of subordination to my parents. I also get shit from everybody. I think independence is a fundamental tenant of manhood and I fantasize about being independent and having my own house more than I do about getting laid.

So while living at home has come with some frustration and indignity, I stay here because I feel that it’s worth it on the whole, at least for now. I look at it as an economic advantage that I can use purposefully and thoughtfully as part of my plan to get somewhere. For me, what makes it bearable is having my own money so that I’m not in a condition of dependency. That way I don’t have to take too much crap from my parents because we could have a falling out and I’d still be fine. The important thing is not to use it as a crutch and become maladjusted.

If you have a job and are going to college, you have no one to answer to, especially if you're paying board.

Enjoy it, those who complain may well be jealous.

If it bothers you, move out. The choice is yours.

Good luck.

I am 19 and am in my second year at college. I moved away my first year to a college about 4.5 hrs away from home. I continued running and went to school but had so much free time i did not know what to do with. i didnt have a job while i was away because i came home so frequently and many of my friends stayed at home and went to college locally so i didnt have many friends to hang out with. Overall i hated it and moved back home, while away at college i had no idea what i wanted to do but since ive moved back home with my parents things are much better. I know what i want to do academically and what career i want to pursue. I have a part time job at a local specialty running shop and overall life is much better. My parents are pretty cool about it all they supported my decision to move home because i wasnt happy while i was away. Moving away from home then moving back home for me atleast made me appreciate what i had at home and gave me a year of independence that allowed me to grow and mature a great deal.

I suggest getting your grades up (not assuming they're bad) and getting into a university as soon as possible. It becomes more and more inconvenient to finish up college the older you get. You can always work, you can always run, and you can always get out on your own. But I highly recommend avoiding a situation in the future where your only option as far as college is to go to school while working full-time at a crappy job and trying to pay for your home/car/bills/possibly a family. Very few people can handle it, and it sucks for those who can.

I moved out. I'm 23. And I live in such an awful apartment, I'm embarrassed to invite women over. If you are going to live at home SAVE for down payment/ rental deposit or something.

Your parents spent 18+ years raising you and paying your way. It's time for you to get out and let them get on with their lives. Try not to be so selfish, think about what they might want and need. They've given you plenty.

Local 419 wrote:

Your parents spent 18+ years raising you and paying your way. It's time for you to get out and let them get on with their lives. Try not to be so selfish, think about what they might want and need. They've given you plenty.

Yo spaztard... the guy has a job and goes to school. How exactly is he screwing his parents over? How is he being selfish?

done that wrote:

Yo spaztard... the guy has a job and goes to school. How exactly is he screwing his parents over? How is he being selfish?

Gee, maybe they want some time for themselves? Do you really think two people exist only as parents and only to serve that function? Lots of couples look forward to children leaving the home so they can re-connect after years of putting a child first.

Until recently, it was pretty much a given that the child would be gone. This particular generation seems to like to live at home well into their mid-20s.

I'm not saying his parents don't want him around, but it's selfish of him to not consider what they might want, as opposed to what HE wants. They've already spent 18 years raising him. Time to fly the coop, son.

Local 419 wrote:

Gee, maybe they want some time for themselves? Do you really think two people exist only as parents and only to serve that function? Lots of couples look forward to children leaving the home so they can re-connect after years of putting a child first.

Until recently, it was pretty much a given that the child would be gone. This particular generation seems to like to live at home well into their mid-20s.

I'm not saying his parents don't want him around, but it's selfish of him to not consider what they might want, as opposed to what HE wants. They've already spent 18 years raising him. Time to fly the coop, son.

Fair enough. If OP flies the coop, I just hope he flies to a 4-year college instead of rotting at a dead end unskilled job. I'm guessing his parents feel the same way.

Quit working part-time and going to school part-time. Do one or the other FULL TIME. Make some progress in either a career or an education--forget Jr. College unless you're getting an Assoc. of Arts that you can transfer to a 4 year school. Or go to a trade school full-time. Get started now!! That way in 3 years you will have accomplished something. The way you're going now, in 3 years you'll be 23 and still living at home.

Make a plan of where you want to be in 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, 5 years. You're probably frustrating the hell out of your parents.

Here's a great quote. This is critical time in your life. Are you going to miss the tide?

"There is a tide in the affairs of men,

Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;

Omitted, all the voyage of their life

Is bound in shallows and in miseries."

William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar

Greatest English dramatist & poet (1564 - 1616)

marijuologist wrote:

Now I work full-time and am in the early stages of starting a small business.

what's your business?

To the original poster, before you do any other major changes, GET YOUR AA!!!!

cinnamon toast crunch wrote:

what's your business?

'freelance' paralegal