Wife is pregnant...

What are you talking about?

I am realist...so lets be real here.

1. My tone has never changed. "Your" life IS "over" when you have kids. Your life must change. Climbing the corporate ladder (non-running) and long runs will becoeme rare. "Your" life is now about the kids. Like you said, so what, there is more to life then running and I agreed. I never said there is nothing more to life other than running and my tone never changed.

2. Sharing time 50/50 is what should be done and is what I have been saying all along...but it rarely happens. A child does take away from YOUR time. So does work, so does marriage, etc. Did you not enjoy dating your now wife? You make it seem like all those things were aweful compared to now...maybe so, who knows.

3. Who said anything about bragging? But you have to admit, you don't get it as much now as you did then.

4 & 5. An act of course, I like seeing your panties get in a bunch.

6. Sure it does. When you are married your wife should share in the responsibilities 50/50. It sounds like yours does not.

7. You are a bad father and overwhlemed parent who makes himself feel better by not admitting there are any negatives to parenthood. I have never denied there are possitives to parenting. I am sure you enjoy living through your child's victories. It makes you feel like you really acomplished something and aren't so much of a loser. After all, maybe he'll grow up and go into sales like you and bring home that big fat $30,000 a year paycheck! Talk about hurting the gene pool...

Thanks for all of the tips. I will be sure to take many of them to heart (except for Snoochie's...what's your deal, man? Were you dropped as a child?)

I'm a new dad... brought home junior yesterday. was born 6/23 at 33 weeks, so he spent two weeks in the NICU.

My wife was pre-eclamptic, forcing an early c-section. I'm 42, she is near 40, so we had an diagnostic ultrasound, which helped to determine any chromosonal abnormalities, but more importantly, it revealed the likelyhood of her pre-eclampsia.

She was a trooper, however, she was very tired the frst trimester, and very emotional. It's the hormones. She also started to gain weight, which is, to a fit person, even more drama to add to their stress. The frequency of sex diminished at first (the initial "fear" after finding out she was pregnant), but that went back to normal, at least up to the seventh month, where getting into a comfortable position for her made it less of a "necessity" for me.

The baby is now home, and I went for my regular run yesterday and today, and I also got in an hour ride this morning. That was met with some resistance, however,a nd afterwards she just asked that if I'm going to do doubles, then to split them up.

I'm 42, and I made it to 40 with the same attitude as smoochie boochie. That attitude will sometimes change when you meet the right person. Although he's getting slammed here, I applaud a person who is smart enough to know they aren't in the right state of mind to have children. Those little brats that smoochie talks about? Those would be his children if he had decided to have them. I think it's a good thing he doesn't.

hi jefe,

would love to get that book but i can't find it on amazon...is that the right title? what is the author's name? thanks!

mudlover wrote:

hi jefe,

would love to get that book but i can't find it on amazon...is that the right title? what is the author's name? thanks!

Yes I did mispell it. It's actually the English spelling;

Optimum Foetal Positioning.

Here's the link...

She got preggers? Damn...sorry about that dude. I tried to pull out.

First thing you do is hunt down the S.O.B. who is responsible for doing this to your wife!

(ha-ha)!

Really, congratulations. Prepare for your legacy. As parents, our true legacy is the children produce and send out into the world. Sounds overwhelming, doesn't it? But being a parent will be overwhelming. If you are an architect or a writer (like me) you think of your legacy as bridges and buildings or stories and books. But if you have a child, he or she is your true legacy.

But being a parent is the single greatest thing in the world!

Congratulations Pamela,

My wife and I had our first boy at 40 and I concur with your diagnosis of smoochie. I held out for a long time until I met and married my wife. Had I had kids one year earlier it would have driven me batty. The desire to have children, especially for me, was very dependent on the desires of my wife. I would have been fine in life without them but I'm thankful for them at least twice a day. There is something intrinsic in each in every one of us to care for little ones and the woman who brought them into the world. It definitely lays dormant until you take one look at your new born baby. Enjoy fatherhood.

I've found through our two boys that if they come into the world with diffuculties they make up for it and vice versa.

As for the little drama queens, yes they sometimes, but not always, run around restaurants with sticky hands creating a ruckus (we usually only frequent brew pubs where nobody cares). Sure I get those "you're a horrible parent" stares from the retirees or childless couples. But for every one of those I get 5 "I feel your pain" smiles from parents who know better. You cannot stop little growing humans you can only hope to contain them. Childless people will never understand that until they have kids of their own...in the meantime do what I did before we had kids - avoid places frequented by kids at all costs.

enjoy the Process.

1. morning sickness , it can last all day or she might not get it. her sense of smell will be like a drug dog beware.

2. Sleep, she needs more don't expect may late nights *until the last month when she won't sleep much and neither will you.

3. the docters, ALWAYS go even if she says you don't have too.

4. Birth class, 50/50 on whether these help or we had a c section so we didn't need it.

5. Nursery, Do it sooner then later you don't want to be painting when she goes into labor

Have fun kids are a blast.