pre-fontainer wrote:
Maybe in your case your relationship exists because you couldn't do any better. Read: You had to settle for your girlfriend because you couldn't get the girls who were out of your league.
read harder wrote:
No one can get girls who are out of their league. If you can get her, she is in your league.
My reaction reading this was the same as "read harder" and others, though I didn't post right away. Let's reword pre-fontainer's first sentence a little:
Maybe in your relationship you did as well as you possibly could.
It's the same logically, but now it sounds like a good thing. "Settling" in a bad sense is when you could do a lot better but settle for much less. Like "I could focus on the more brilliant posts on letsrun, but in reality I mostly read the drivel by pre-fontainer and his ilk."
On topic: having dated and had relationships only with non-runners in the years since I started, my experience is a lot like that of "running is best" and though I won't demand it, I'd sure prefer to find a woman who runs (and is otherwise just right). Recreationally is fine - in fact, yeah, I'd rather she love running for its own sake than being motivated primarily by competition, because the latter group seems to give it up altogether and get fat when their racing ain't what it used to be.