Four times in 2010, all in September. I hope she doesn't wonder why I love my xbox.
Mr. Obvious wrote:
Headed into the last month of the year. Wonder if any of the letsrunners are still an 0-fer the year.
Your post resonated with me. I've got more or less the same kind of marriage and I would have written more or less the same post as you, EXCEPT: 2-3 times a month would be great! That would be a lot more than I'm getting. How about 2-3 times every three months? That's where she and I are.
KT Perry #1 wrote:
So I don't have time to read all of this but have a question....
I have an amazing wife and we have an amazing marriage, but what in the hell do you do when she doesn't want to have sex except for maybe 2-3 times a month? We don't argue about this or anything. I make my usual attempts but do not pressure or try to persuade her if I get "The Heisman." I treat her as best as I can, and the sex we do have is amazing to say the least and she thoroughly enjoys it. Yes, women can be good at faking it, but I can obviously tell she enjoys it without having to go into much detail. So what do I do. I know "getting married was your first mistake" blah blah blah. But seriously, I KNOW marriage is not all about sex. I KNOW this. But when a man has his desires and he has to hold back so much from the one he loves unconditionally, what do you do?!?!?!?!?!!? Our marriage is perfect besides the lack of sex. Go ahead with the funny comments, I enjoy a good laugh, but would also enjoy some REAL insight.
If she wants "autonomy" and the "reproductive choice" of not having sex with you, it's only fair that you have the autonomy and reproductive choice of having sex with other women.
Want it bad wrote:
Been married for 5 years with 1 kid and one on the way. Sex has definitely taken a hit. Actually the months of trying to get pregnant were awesome as they provided her with some motivation. Almost wish my sperm were bad. BJs are for B-day and anniversary. When we were dating, it was "suck my dick" and she did whenever and wherever. Depressing as hell.
Part of a woman's psyche is wanting you = wanting to please you. Physiologically, it is highly likely women won't want sex as often as men do, but the point is if she still loves you and wants to show you by indulging your desires. It's not charity if your wife WANTS to make you happy, even if she's not necessarily in the mood.
separated wrote:I want the woman I'm with to want me. I don't want to trick her into wanting me, I just want her to want me. It's hard to get too excited when you think she's just doing it for you. I want her to WANT IT just like me. Charity sex is sad.
I can't help but feeling the same way. Mrs. Jabbles and I haven't met yet however I hope she wants me as much as I want her. However, maybe with that is also a responsibility to continue running or swimming or something and eating right so that its easier for her to be attracted. Just my .02$
This thread is fascinating. Something that bugs me..and I realize this is probably just the way it is, but so many of these responses are about what the men should do to get the woman interested. Personally, I'm not interested in charity sex. I want the woman I'm with to want me. I don't want to trick her into wanting me, I just want her to want me. It's hard to get too excited when you think she's just doing it for you. I want her to WANT IT just like me. Charity sex is sad.