Is your spouse pulling her/his weight?

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Did you discuss money issues before you were married? I know this is a moot point but you married her for better or worse. Play the hand you're dealt and make do.

Hahaha...I'm the one pulling my wife down. We're a few years out of school...she earns 70,000 a year while I'm pulling in just under 40,000. However, she still has students loans, and her car is about to die (and wants a new sports car...I'm trying to steer her to a Civic or Fit), so after all is said and done I'm not behind by much. And she'll max out at maybe 100,000 (or the equiv. down the road with inflation) while the sky's the limit in my profession. The original poster has a nice little freeloader on his hands though!

Hope you inked a prenup buddy. Soon enough you'll get fed up, go for the divorce, and she'll get half!

No one think they'll need the prenup before they get married, then something like this happens. Best thing I ever did.

I didn't need a pre-nup because I started with very little.

Hey!

She is your wife, snap out of it.

Deal with it and quit bitching to a message board.

You are weak.

you really should talk to her point blank about these issues. if you let them continue without saying something, it may be too late.

Yes, I'm in a similar situation except older, longer relationship (about 9 years), and finally I'm getting sick and tired enough to call it quits. It's really tough but should have years ago. From the little you wrote it doesn't sound like she's likely to change. I kept thinking change was imminent, but that was just denial.

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Yeah, this is somewhat of a problem for me, but hey...she gives great head, so I'm not complaining.

As long as the ole lady takes care of business in the bedroom, kitchen, and laundry rooms who cares how much she makes!

A question for you Joe (and don't worry, if I am correct, I will NOT try and "out" you, but I am probably wrong anyway)-

do you live in Southern CA ? You married young right?

Just checking to see if I know you.

Go to a Focus, Sentra, or Caliber. Stay away from the Toyota. Toyota just announced a recall of over 1 million units. Their 'quality' has been going down and may get passed by Buick, Hyundai, and Mercury this year.

Not from So. Cal.

My bad, I thought you used to be from the NorthEast......and had moved to SoCal a few years back. (?)

Maybe you should make a power point presentation on the value of her getting off her lazy butt and getting a job.

If she is only making $500 month it is safe to assume she is not educated, probley has a job in child care and has no ampition in life. I made more than $500 a month mowing lawns when I was a kid. Why bust your butt when she sits on hers?

And when you get divorced, because you will, she will get the house you are working hard for.

AVERAgeJoe wrote:

I didn't need a pre-nup because I started with very little.

a pre-nup is definitely not only about what you start with. in fact, it usually has relatively little to do with what you start with.

we've been through this before on this message board; i think it's too bad that pre-nups get such a bad rap. it just seems to me to make sense to have a conversation with your future spouse about certain hypothetical situations, e.g. you don't have kids, one of you makes $150k per year, the other $10k; do you each effectively own $80k per year? or one of you inherits $500k after your parents die (say, one year into the marriage); did you each effectively inherit $250k?; does it matter if it is one day into the marriage? 5 years into the marriage?

at the very least, this conversation needs to take place, even if it is not reduced to writing. you are entering into an economic partnership; shouldn't there be some guidelines?

I think the guy still has very little?

get her pregnant. at least then you won't feel like she ain't pulling her weight unless she doesn't want to stay home and take care of your kid.