How can any sane rational being look around at how much pain and suffering is in this world and then think its a good idea to have a child. It is selfish. Every time I hear why people have kids it is "Because it gives me purpose". How self-centered is that? Let's bring a child in the world so my existence seems less futile. Then when I say that I am depressed and miserable at work and want to die they just tell me I need to grow some balls and man up. I don't want to. I don't care. For what purpose? So I can buy a house? So I can have children of my own? So I can get married? So I can work for 40 years and then die of cancer or something? Get divorced? I just want this shi t ty existence to be over.
You chose this life and you have a purpose that you've been ignoring. Get with the program and start trying to figure out what it is. It sounds like you're drowning in negativity so my advice is to lay off news media and social media (which is hugely negative) and just live the experiences that come to you.
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How can any sane rational being look around at how much pain and suffering is in this world and then think its a good idea to have a child. It is selfish. Every time I hear why people have kids it is "Because it gives me purpose". How self-centered is that? Let's bring a child in the world so my existence seems less futile. Then when I say that I am depressed and miserable at work and want to die they just tell me I need to grow some balls and man up. I don't want to. I don't care. For what purpose? So I can buy a house? So I can have children of my own? So I can get married? So I can work for 40 years and then die of cancer or something? Get divorced? I just want this shi t ty existence to be over.
You are the cause of your own unhappiness, and you are the only one who can fix it. Your parent's responsibility for how you feel is over. It's time for you to step up, or not. I'm quite familiar with hopeless misery myself, but I choose to work against it.
OP you are so right about this, one political party out of fear is blocking abortion rights, public education & same sex personal activity. They call it “pro life” it’s actually pro birth.
Yeah, it's the Republicans fault that he's such a weenie, not the Democrats for constantly telling him how useless and horrible he is.
OP you are so right about this, one political party out of fear is blocking abortion rights, public education & same sex personal activity. They call it “pro life” it’s actually pro birth.
Yeah, it's the Republicans fault that he's such a weenie, not the Democrats for constantly telling him how useless and horrible he is.
First thank you for taking the time to share your feeling.
I do find it odd - that after accusing the Democrats of constantly telling him he is useless and horrible - you call him a weenie. As a democrat I did reassure him his thinking was sound.
Correct, consent has to be given before the fact and an unborn child certainly can not give consent. Then the parents will likely subjectively portray life as a gift not a curse. But yes, parents have kids to make their own lives better, so I'd day that in itself is a selfish act done via a sin (sexual intercourse). You look at adoption rates, they're shockingly low. The parents want to selfishly replicate their own DNA through a sinful act. If you're going to look at child bearing from a positive connotation, the flip side should be examined as well.
How can any sane rational being look around at how much pain and suffering is in this world and then think its a good idea to have a child. It is selfish. Every time I hear why people have kids it is "Because it gives me purpose". How self-centered is that? Let's bring a child in the world so my existence seems less futile. Then when I say that I am depressed and miserable at work and want to die they just tell me I need to grow some balls and man up. I don't want to. I don't care. For what purpose? So I can buy a house? So I can have children of my own? So I can get married? So I can work for 40 years and then die of cancer or something? Get divorced? I just want this shi t ty existence to be over.
Several months ago I was talking with someone about some strikingly similar thoughts to this. Life can be a lot of pain and suffering. His wife fought a decades long bout with cancer. He himself had a tough life and some insane health issues. What are we doing here.. This person unsarcastically said, "Are we in Hell?". Fair question.
If you're truly depressed in the clinical sense, know that for many people things get better. Try to get help if you can, not the 'you need a kick in the pants' kind of support, but the kind of support that actually helps, the kind who will carry you because you cannot walk.
Try to eat healthy and get enough sleep. Make a concerted effort to find activities you enjoy. Meet some interesting people. Pick up an instrument. Read some books. Listen to your favorite music. Set some goals. Do this day after day and get out of the Hell you're in.