Please help me decide: should I take the job?

Amazon is a terrible place to work, did you do any research before up and moving to Seattle?

If you want to stay married, you should move back to Charlotte and take whatever you can get. Surely you can find something there or something remote.

I don’t want to name the employer in a public setting. There were admittedly some red flags but I was naive and overly optimistic about them.

What do you think I should do? Take the job in St Paul or keep looking for opportunities in Charlotte?

If your wife needs a guy to stay close and keep her safe let me know

Thanks. One thing I should add since you mentioned remote work: the Saint Paul job has remote Fridays. So I could fly back to Charlotte every Thursday night to spend most of the weekend with my wife. Obviously flying every week would be both expensive and exhausting, but we could at least be together every weekend instead of now when I’m only able to visit monthly.

Have you tried talking to your wife instead of a bunch of idiots on a running message board?

Honestly, if the people here are your best source for advice, you don't deserve to be happy.

We need to see wife pics for the best advice.

Stay poopy!

Of course we’ve talked. We’re both torn. She understands it’s a great job offer and will support my decision. She misses me and wants me back home (just as I miss her), but we both recognize that a short term sacrifice could be beneficial for my career prospects in the long term.

I’ve talked to family and friends but everyone is too close to me/us to give objective advice. I figured strangers would be more objective and forthright.

This is the answer. What’s more important - your marriage or possibly settling for a less than ideal job in Charlotte? Think about it long term. A career with a company can last 20-30yrs. Are you willing to remain apart from your wife until you basically are ready for retirement? I would move back to Charlotte, take whatever you can get and be proactively searching and applying for a job your really want.

You guys are probably right. It’s just tough to think about turning down the Saint Paul job. It’s exactly the work I want to be doing, and it seems like an awesome organization. With the ability to spend every weekend in Charlotte, I’m wondering if I can have the best of both worlds. But maybe that’s impractical.

Everybody is hiring. You can get a good paying job in North Carolina in the service industry. Some pay upwards of $20.00 per hour. Then you can get another job part time on top of that.

Your wife needs to grow up and stand by her man.

Your wife lives in Charlotte and you've been looking for jobs in... Seattle and St Paul? I think you should take the job because you clearly don't like your wife very much.

Your wife is most likely getting some side "D" already. You've given her plenty of justification for it by working across country and now even considering another away job. If you want your marriage to last you'd better be around dream job or not.

She's prolly sucking you already....

What's a "job"?

This is the blunt feedback I was hoping for. Thanks.

Question: does my being able to be in Charlotte every weekend change your opinion, or do you still think it’s a no-go?

Cucking*

When I think about my career and my family, I think about the full scope of it and all the pros and cons and how the end result might look. If all things go well between you and your wife, each of you may very well be spending your final moments/years with each other. Your career will not be there for you on your death bed and it will also not have been a true witness to your life. And that time away cannot be replaced or bought back. But your wife and family can be. And that time away cannot be replaced or bought back. There is so many ways to find work in a city so that you stay together. And who knows, perhaps a little down the road and into the future you both can find a way/location that works for both your careers. But for me personally, I would always strive to pick family over work. Only time I would pick a job away from family is if I knew it was a short stint that I could grind through. I just don't think a career will be there for you when you look back on your life. And this is coming from someone who has just been working for a couple years since completing college. I realize some job requirements away from family are almost mandatory. I think of first responders, military, medical staff, etc. Those careers are pretty hard on folks. So I say be adaptable but strive to do whatever it takes to remain as a unit.