I just found out my girl friend smokes occasionally and didn't tell me

So what did you decide to do?

Does your tongue or nose not work?

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This is the answer here. It is a big red flag when someone is actively hiding something from you. You are right to consider what else might they hide from you in the future or the present? It is not a good characteristic to be shady and sneaky like that. It's early in the relationship so should be easy for you to move on.

Also, if smoking is one of the things you will not tolerate in a partner then it's pretty simple...move on.

Honestly, if the relationship is really good, I would say try not to make this too big of a deal, as in, don't break up with her. But, I would say you need to express to her that this hugely unattractive to you and off-putting (if it is), and tell her you would really appreciate it if she would try to ween herself off them. How she responds to that will tell you a lot about if she's someone you want to be with long term.

All of the above aside, smoking is a disgusting habit and absolutely horrible for your health. I personally would not be with someone who smoked more than probably 10 cigarettes per year, and really, realistically, I probably would never end up with someone who smoked at all because it doesn't align with my lifestyle and values. But I have come to appreciate we all have habits and behaviors that we like that others don't, so it might be worth trying to show at least a little tolerance.

Think of the most white trash thing possible, then times it by 100, then you will have an image of someone vaping

Why was your post downloaded? I mean, it’s clearly true. Cigarette smoking does damage your skin and therefore your looks over time.

There are a few idiots from the Covid vax thread who downvote everything I post on LetsRun. Losing the vax debate has made them bitter and angry.

That sucks. You should go commando like I do. I don’t post under my real name very often.

She also cheats on you.

Your girlfriend has been smokin’ something of mine.

My first gf hid the fact that she was drinking behind my back (we were both underage at the time). It's not that I'm such a stinker about underage drinking (although we both had committed to each other we wouldn't drink underage), but the fact that she did it and tried to conceal it from me. That exposed a trust issue in our relationship that was hard for me to overcome, as well as the reality that we had misaligned values that would be hard to unite. I didn't break up with her right then, but I did within 2 months afterward. The more the issue sat in me, the more it became intolerable. So glad I ended that relationship and wish I did it sooner.

You should start smokin' pot.