Dating opportunities for straight men are diminishing as ‘healthy relationship standards increase’

The problem with our suggestions is that we're giving them to people (it's hard to tell how many there are given all the 'anonymous' posters) who seem to be all over the shop with their actual 'problem', which - at least in part - has likely been exacerbated by their world view (and / or the personality traits which predisposes individuals to the world view).

And that's if they're not just outright trolling.

Even if you feel you’re average (and anyone into competitive distance running is at least average I would think), if you can survive as a young male to a healthy adult body and not get addicted to fentanyl opioids and other bullsht affecting&shortening the lives of many young men these days, (and keep your head on straight ), I think you’ll (eventually)stand out to women in the crowd of men. Many young men today have addiction problems with criminal backgrounds as a result, sometimes involvement in gang related activities and yet they’re able to get hot women (which is a bit surprising to me with neck tattoos, body covered in garbage tattoos and they have banging women by their side …until they’re in prison, dead from OD, or shot dead). I think you’ll eventually have to succeed with women if you’re patient because other men get married and they’re then out of the dating pool, and Women get pretty serious and down to earth by a certain period in their lives, whereas men have a lot of (extra) time to work on themselves. And Being single is a good time to work on yourself in the meantime

” I ain’t got time for bitches

gotta keep my mind on my motherf-ing riches”

Well done...but what do you look like? How tall are you? Are you high-income/high-status? I've heard these stories before with tall, good looking guys or high-income/status dudes. And if you're going to claim that you're an unattractive short guy or something along those lines show some pics for verification. 😉

It's not a philosophy - it's a reality. So, accuse me of being obsessed with reality instead of living in a blue pill, Disney World outlook on dating modern day women.

And what about cold approach for us normies & sub-5s? Any good lines? Good jokes? Any good colognes to wear? How about speaking with an English or Scottish accent? (a red piller once told me that really worked with American girls. Lol). Give me something more than just "be confident" or "be yourself bro."

FWIW, black pill expert "Wheat Waffles" (96k subscribers) doesn't believe average & below-average guys should even bother with cold approach. Most women will find it repugnant & insulting.

It's not a reality. From an evolutionary standpoint, if the only guys having sex were 6ft+, good looking guys, THEN WHERE ARE ALL THE SHORT, UGLY DUDE GENES COMING FROM! F*cking think about it!

Anyways, you're overcomplicating this sh!t. It really is as simple as "BE CONFIDENT" and "BE YOURSELF." If you need a reference point to understand this, watch some Andrew Tate interviews. Whether you like him or find his views distasteful, you simply can't deny that he has incredible charisma. He's loud, says whatever the f*ck he wants without fear and with incredible conviction - THIS IS WHAT PEOPLE MEAN BY BE CONFIDENT AND BE YOURSELF. From the POV of a woman, that conviction sub-communicates that "this guy could provide for me and protect me if some sh!t were to go down," which at a woman's most basic, primal level is what they find attractive. Not saying that you have to act exactly like Andrew Tate, but with women and people in general, if you can express your opinions and desires without fear or care about what others think, people will begin to take you seriously. Add some humor and some basic social awareness of the wants/needs of others such that you're not a selfish pr!ck that people don't like, then you can begin to really get what you want out of life. That's social skills in a nutshell.

Yes...my problem is looks and height. To think otherwise is blue pill delusional. I would say height is even more of a factor than looks.There are some exceptions that neutralize the height disadvantage. Wealth & status is the big one, and to a lesser extent a muscular, athletic physique & good looks (I'm gym maxed & all this has done is attract overweight/obese women. 😕)

Get a reality check & watch this video from "Wheat Waffles" (96k subscribers & over 390k views on just this one video):

According to his data - a 5'10" guy has only a 15% rejection rate from women based solely on height while a 5'6" man (I'm a tad under 5'6") has a shocking 75% rejection rate based solely on height.

A couple of anecdotes: I know an attorney in our neighborhood who is 5'2", average looking & an avid marathon runner. He totes around in his 100k car & has all the toys & stuff. His GF is super hot (9) who's 5'8" tall and much younger than him. However, she's also a marathon runner, so there's some capability there. She has a much lower career field thus less incone than he does (I used to be friends with her).

I know another 5'2" guy that I'm friends with at the gym that I work out at. He's a bodybuilder/powerlifter & jacked to the max (his nickname is "Pocket Hercules"). He's a blue collar worker & lives a modest lifestyle. I would say he's above-average looking. His live-in GF is obese weighing well over 200 lbs at around 5'5." He's not happy about the situation but that's the best he can do. He's said he's taken these silly courses on "game" from dating coaches & it never worked for him. Lol.

I'm an ultra-short man that's average looking at best. I have neither wealth nor status. And this muscular, aesthetic physique that I've worked so hard for attracts nothing but overweight/obese women - much like "Pocket Hercules." Lol.

Reality at it's best...

Interesting study:

None are as blind as those who refuse to see.

No kidding...my parents were ultra-short (5'5"/5'1") and not very good looking - they probably could have done my brother & I a favor & not reproduce. 🤣🤣🤣

The rest of your stuff is all blue pill Disney delusional BS. You really need to debate someone like MD of Smash TV (author of "48 laws of dating") or Wheat Waffles - I'm sure they'll set you straight.

The 'blue pill, Disney World outlook' isn't incompatible with the fact that certain factors making dating easier. Rather, it says: "no ****, but you can still get dates, and psychologically tormenting yourself isn't going to help you out".

Very few guys (or girls) in general are 'cold approaching' (sober). I don't think they'd find it insulting though - I've been hit on by women who were taking a shot they probably thought they had no idea of landing, and - whilst I can't recall their faces - I respect the cojones of taking said shot. You might get some performative rejection from younger / awkward girls, but I doubt it. At most they'll be standoffish out of awkwardness.

The way to get a girlfriend is through social proximity and exhibiting a basic level of social competence. School / university, clubs, events, friendship circles, interest circles etc. e.g. going to a bar after work with 5 friends and meeting the friends of mutual friends.

Tell me you watch an unhealthy amount of pron without saying you watch an unhealthy amount of pron...

Damn, I was genuinely not expecting my advice of "act more like Andrew Tate" to be considered "blue pill disney delusional bs." Anyways, good luck to you and Wheat Waffles in all your endeavours.

I wish you would step back from that ledge, Herr Wheat Waffle.

and personality.

You’ve cited that 75% of women will reject a 5’6 guy outright for height only.

That means you have a chance with 25% of women. See how easy it is to re-frame things?

Like bro there’s millions of women. 25% of millions is millions so long as there are at least 8 million

Yes. These losers end idolizing some guy born rich who has to pay women to be with him, mostly because the don't have the money to do the same. They never realize their idol is a sad little insecure man with tiny hands and an unquenchable need to be admired because he has never achieved anything on his own.

Every dude is 6 months in the gym and a solid haircut away from being at least a 6 out of 10. The problem is not your physical appearance, it's your obsession with self-pity and niche corners of the internet designed to exploit struggling men for profit. Fellas on this thread need to get unhooked from this blue pill, red pill, black pill nonsense. It's all a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you were a nice poster, I may let you date me...but your nasty posts turn me off.

That's not true & completely "red pill." Yes...for some guys gym & looks maxing can move up one up to a 6 or even 7. For other guys, it's not that simple. I'm a very short man at a tad under 5-6. I'm below average looking & I'm not rich earning well under 6 figures. I'm a 4 at best and that includes a muscular, aesthetic physique that I've developed from years of bodybuilding competition (and a solid haircut. Lol). I would need some plastic surgery & a leg-lengthening procedure to move up to a 6 & become more attractive to women. This is called "black pill" reality - realizing what my limitations are & accepting the consequences.

Black pillers all think this way but yet get a bad reputation of being lazy, unmotivated & not wanted to improve on their physical appearance or personality.

In this black bill podcast; 6-3, muscle man, multi-millionaire, "Chad" looking John Sonmez - a world-renowned life improvement coach, (Bull Dog Mindset) discusses & agrees with the black pill panelists that looks & height is most important. He agrees that below-average looking short men, for example, are having a very difficult time in today's dating world. It's worth a listen & it'll give you a different perspective on just difficult it is for guys like me. If you really watch it - you'll hold empathy & a thorough understanding for guys like us instead of passing judgment on us (John's appearance starts at 47 mins into the video).