share good memories wrote:
share good memories wrote:
Nice
Sad to think some will never experience anything like that. And its not just the setting and the pretty girl but the most most part, is that you have to be a person with the Right emotional make up to allow yourself to feel that way.
I am guessing only 1 out of 3 posters here will ever experience that feeling.
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Romantic dinners wrote:
share good memories wrote:
Sad to think some will never experience anything like that. And its not just the setting and the pretty girl but the most most part, is that you have to be a person with the Right emotional make up to allow yourself to feel that way.
I am guessing only 1 out of 3 posters here will ever experience that feeling.
Have you been reading some of the posts here? More like 1 out of 7 will ever experience that feeling. Most won't ever understand it. They will think sex is the same as love and romance.
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When I was in college, my girlfriend and I participated in our school's study abroad program in Europe. That semester, we celebrated our 2-year dating anniversary. To plan, I looked up the most beautiful places in Europe to spend the weekend, and we took a trip to Lake Hallstatt in the Austrian mountains. The town we stayed in was right on the lake, in between majestic, snow-capped mountains. The morning of the "anniversary," we took a ferry in the morning across the lake in the fog to the historic town of Hallstatt. Only the bottoms of the enormous mountains were visible in the fog, and it was slightly drizzling. That was one of the most peaceful, lovely boat rides I've ever been on. We spent the morning exploring the centuries-old little shops and streets. In the afternoon, we hiked up mount Dachstein and saw the breath-taking view of the Austrian countryside. That evening, I took her to a small restaurant right on the shore of the lake. The dinner wasn't expensive, and I don't remember what we ate, but I'll never forget how beautiful she looked that day and how much fun we had exploring. At dinner, I remember looking at her and thinking that day was the best day of my life, and that she was the most lovely and incredible person I had ever met. The only thing I was wrong about was that it was only the second best day of my life - second only to our wedding day.
Theres something about the mountains, isn't there? I wouldn't normally post on here, but I had recently been dumped by a boyfriend, whose idea of dinner in retrospect I worked out was to invite whatever woman he was meeting up with his round to his place for "dinner". He would make it seem as if he was a genuine, "nice" guy but who was actually just practised in using Tinder and was horribly false. I was really into him at one point and couldn't understand the way he was acting or the things he was saying, and now I can't bear to even think about him. Oh, and he would try and push his pseudo vegan food choices on you along with his near-anorexia. He ended it horribly and was pretty nasty about it.
Anyway, a month later, I got invited out by a man for dinner in the Swiss Alps to a mountain top restaurant, as in I literally got on a plane and flew there (I knew him already reasonably well). The sun came down over the mountains as were dining, casting shadows over the peaks as it got gradually darker, which made the mountains look even more spectacular. He insisted on paying and point blank refused to let me contribute. He knew how the food was grown in the region and explained the special type of cattle and how they were raised and his conversation was interesting and varied too. He spoke 3 languages fluently, wasn't only looking for one thing and was just such a perfect and courteous gentleman. He also took me for a tour of a couple of interesting places in the region before dinner and made a huge effort but not in a showy or arrogant way, but in a way that came naturally to him.
The contrast was so great with my previous experience that I was almost unable to take it in and it made me feel healed. It made me realise that there are men out there who have maybe slightly old fashioned courtesy and standards of behaviour, perhaps in a very central European way, and I was able to raise my standards and see through guys who are not genuine. We are still seeing each other and hope to move closer soon. There are some people who enhance your life and others you regret giving a chance.
Of course, its not the cost of the dinner or the fanciness of the restaurant that makes an experience good, its the genuine intention and effort put in by the two people who are there. I could eat dinner on a campground round the fire in the pouring rain and be just as happy if it was with the right person.
That's a very girlish response. No man thinks like that, for sure. Seeing triggered women is kind of fun. Cheers to you, although you sound a bit arrogant.
dumbassMF wrote:
share good memories wrote:
I thought both. But your follow-up post further proves my point. You will not experience it and you won't understand it. I am sorry but that is the truth.
I can't explain to you what you are missing. Those of us who have experienced it, know how special it is.
Au contraire, your experience was mostly your imagination, and is actually quite limited. I feel sorry for you.
The odd thing here is that you think the romantic dinners described in this thread were mostly imagination. They are not. People who experience true romance have the common experiences that have been described. But some of those who haven't experienced it, such as yourself, can only think they have been made up.
That is sad but all is not lost. My wish for you is that someday you have this experience. Maybe you will and then you will understand.
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First date: tiny french crepes place, wonderful food, split a bottle of wine. We were quite full but when we got the dessert menus, he said, "Oh, we have to get dessert, it's amazing here" - well, that sold me. I'm a big dessert fan myself! And we got crepes with ice cream and a flaming brandy sauce. The most lovely part of the night was that we had a lot to talk about: conversation didn't get awkward or boring. It was entertaining, witty ,and funny. We've been married 12 years and we still have the best conversations!
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That's a very girlish response. No man thinks like that, for sure. Seeing triggered women is kind of fun. Cheers to you, although you sound a bit arrogant.
Please explain what you mean. Seeing triggered women is kind of fun?
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Promenade of Doom wrote:
casualfan wrote:
When I was in college, my girlfriend and I participated in our school's study abroad program in Europe. That semester, we celebrated our 2-year dating anniversary. To plan, I looked up the most beautiful places in Europe to spend the weekend, and we took a trip to Lake Hallstatt in the Austrian mountains. The town we stayed in was right on the lake, in between majestic, snow-capped mountains. The morning of the "anniversary," we took a ferry in the morning across the lake in the fog to the historic town of Hallstatt. Only the bottoms of the enormous mountains were visible in the fog, and it was slightly drizzling. That was one of the most peaceful, lovely boat rides I've ever been on. We spent the morning exploring the centuries-old little shops and streets. In the afternoon, we hiked up mount Dachstein and saw the breath-taking view of the Austrian countryside. That evening, I took her to a small restaurant right on the shore of the lake. The dinner wasn't expensive, and I don't remember what we ate, but I'll never forget how beautiful she looked that day and how much fun we had exploring. At dinner, I remember looking at her and thinking that day was the best day of my life, and that she was the most lovely and incredible person I had ever met. The only thing I was wrong about was that it was only the second best day of my life - second only to our wedding day.
Theres something about the mountains, isn't there? I wouldn't normally post on here, but I had recently been dumped by a boyfriend, whose idea of dinner in retrospect I worked out was to invite whatever woman he was meeting up with his round to his place for "dinner". He would make it seem as if he was a genuine, "nice" guy but who was actually just practised in using Tinder and was horribly false. I was really into him at one point and couldn't understand the way he was acting or the things he was saying, and now I can't bear to even think about him. Oh, and he would try and push his pseudo vegan food choices on you along with his near-anorexia. He ended it horribly and was pretty nasty about it.
Anyway, a month later, I got invited out by a man for dinner in the Swiss Alps to a mountain top restaurant, as in I literally got on a plane and flew there (I knew him already reasonably well). The sun came down over the mountains as were dining, casting shadows over the peaks as it got gradually darker, which made the mountains look even more spectacular. He insisted on paying and point blank refused to let me contribute. He knew how the food was grown in the region and explained the special type of cattle and how they were raised and his conversation was interesting and varied too. He spoke 3 languages fluently, wasn't only looking for one thing and was just such a perfect and courteous gentleman. He also took me for a tour of a couple of interesting places in the region before dinner and made a huge effort but not in a showy or arrogant way, but in a way that came naturally to him.
The contrast was so great with my previous experience that I was almost unable to take it in and it made me feel healed. It made me realise that there are men out there who have maybe slightly old fashioned courtesy and standards of behaviour, perhaps in a very central European way, and I was able to raise my standards and see through guys who are not genuine. We are still seeing each other and hope to move closer soon. There are some people who enhance your life and others you regret giving a chance.
Of course, its not the cost of the dinner or the fanciness of the restaurant that makes an experience good, its the genuine intention and effort put in by the two people who are there. I could eat dinner on a campground round the fire in the pouring rain and be just as happy if it was with the right person.
Sounds like a great date and a wonderful person. Just be careful, you were hurt by your last relationship and may still be vulnerable. I believe rebound effects still could be a factor. Take it slow. But it's a real good thing you are moving forward. Good luck.
dumbassMF wrote:
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Often true feelings and fears not openly expressed are revealed in humor and trolls. Maybe you will have better luck with the ladies in the future. I guess humor is a good way to try and deal with what's missing in your life.
Good things could still happen if you are open to it.
I'm happily married, I'm just not a sap.
Married or not, something is missing. Were you head over heals in love with your wife, or where you one of the guys who just settled because you thought you needed to be married?
I don't think you will be able to seriously answer that question.
She's very special. We were skiing at Telluride, wine, paella, it was perfect. Must have been the mountain air. We've been married 17 years now and have 2 wonderful children.
The first story was pretty good too, just a different time and place.