notbuying it wrote:
Treading into new unfamiliar waters.
My son just turned 5 is starting flag football practice. He is one of the smaller kids. I am realizing that he isn't super tough or resilient, by watching how he deals with losing or not scoring a touchdown. I'm not sure football is his thing.
Seasoned parents:
Do you try to build toughness and resiliency or just enroll your kids in activities that play to their strong suits and interests?
Did you notice that your kids (boys) changed a lot related to these behaviors as they aged, or was it consistent with how they acted in their 3-6 year old formative years?
Thanks in advance.
I think you should expose your children to a lot of different things, but focus more on things that they express an interest in (or things that are important to you as a family).
I like to play music. My kids will give up on that really quick. I've never tried to push it because honestly I can do that on my own anyway. My wife and I both like to ski. The kids are going to go skiing with us whether they like it or not (at least at age 5) so they better figure it out.
Behavior will change a lot over the years. They probably always will have some of the same tendencies, but they will express them differently (and if they are detrimental they will learn to hide them).
I have coached a lot of 5 year old (ish) Soccer over the years. At that age one of the most important traits for "success" (in a Soccer context) is just how well the kids can focus. If a kid can stay engaged on the ball with laser focus they will "perform" well regardless of their ability level. Once they are 13 they can all focus so that's no longer a differentiator.
There's a lot of changes that occur in terms of the player standings as they go from 5 to 18. I've seen standouts at 5 become also rans at 7. I've seen kids who were standing around at 7 become the playmaker at 13.