My wife doesn't like me to mention the name or existence of any previous girlfriend or ex wife like there was no one before her

She sounds jealous amd insecure, the type that won't even let you talk to other girls to have a simple conversation with them. She is desperate and scared you'll upgrade to something better because she really doesn't have much to offer and is lucky to have you.

Good luck, this marriage will not last long.

she sounds like a human being

One of the old Greek fathers suggested that the elite grow up together and conduct free for all utopic mating, so no one will know who fathered whom and all will love equally for the nation’s sake.

Get some serious marriage counseling. If she won't go with you, go by yourself.

The Greek believed that if men had sex with each other they would bond and fight harder during wars. There is an entire Greek fraternity system based on men sleeping with each other.

Let it Rupp wrote:

Any ex-wives? As in you have multiple? I am starting to notice a pattern here...

Did someone edit the OP? I too thought it used the plural and now I checked back in to see OP's response and it's singular.

marriage has wrote:

I have kids from a previous marriage and she also likes to think we should have had those kids together. We have been married one year and we are both in our mid 40s. I have a young son and daughter and she has a grown son in his mid 20s from a previous marriage. My kids are with me a lot because we share custody, so everytime we discuss something before she was around, she gets mad. I am not talking about something with my ex, but just an event that l did with me and my kids only, she gets mad, even taking about when they were babies. She is a very good stepmom, but l basically can't mention life before her. She said it should have been us all along. Has this happened to anyone?

It should have been you all along? How would you manage that if you didn't meet till your forties? It seems you're to blame for her own previous choices. Be careful whose name you call out in the sack. Might be the last thing you ever do.

Seems like a not unreasonable request. Providing. Providing she made the request in a reasonable way and not some shrill mandate. And providing she otherwise acts and talks etc like a good person.

It wouldn't kill you to keep the allusions to your former loves and life to a minimum.

jamese wrote:

It wouldn't kill you to keep the allusions to your former loves and life to a minimum.

Is there a statue of limitations

Let her know she is not your first birthing person.

checker backer inner wrote:

Let it Rupp wrote:

Any ex-wives? As in you have multiple? I am starting to notice a pattern here...

Did someone edit the OP? I too thought it used the plural and now I checked back in to see OP's response and it's singular.

Married once. She was married once too, so no pattern.

Sorry, but your new wife has issues. She sucks. Good luck with that.

H_Emer_Troy wrote:

jamese wrote:

It wouldn't kill you to keep the allusions to your former loves and life to a minimum.

Is there a statue of limitations

I dont know about a statue but a statute might be possible.

It is kind of difficult in your forties not to have a past life. Having memories and experiences are hardly "allusions". It seems she has decided year zero is when they met.

Stay away from jealous people wrote:

Good luck, this marriage will not last long.

Sorry to say, but I kind of feel the same way. That kind of behavior is a big indication of emotional immaturity and is a red flag. I would not have married a woman like that. My experience with grown adults who are emotionally immature is that it does not get better with time, usually worse, ironically. If she's acting this way early on while things are decently good, I would say you better buckle tf up for when things are not so rosey. I hope I'm wrong. I seriously do, but my experience and observation is that relationships with women who are emotionally immature like how you described are turbulent, rocky, and/or short-lasting. That said, I know a woman like that who has been married 25 years, though it has been an almost constant roller coaster from what I can gather.

You know, I see it all the time. People getting into relationships and married and everyone else just says, "that's never gonna last." And a few months or years later, lo and behold, it's over. Love is blind and emotional, resulting in a lot of stupid decisions. It's like a drunken state of mind.