wisdom wrote:
I’m typing this in the oncology ward as my wife of 20 years is preparing to start try #3 to treat her cancer. We met at age 19 and somehow managed wait until our wedding night to have sex/live together and we have 3 beautiful kids. Yes old fashioned. I’m here to tell you brother that this is not just ‘another step’ in life like graduation or getting that first job. Marriage is a life long vow to hold fast, even when your life is like a horror movie. The fact that you are trading it against a ‘nice vacation’ should be a red flag to you and her. I mean this constructively - you need to be 100% committed to this step in life. Note that’s not the same as 100% certain it will ‘work out’ but you need to be ready to give your all and then more for this person.
- An incredibly happily married man.
If you had invested the money you spent on a wedding you probably could afford a better doctor and preventative care. Remember, marriage is a marathon not a sprint.