I’m 30 and my fiancé is 27. We both graduated with our master’s degree within the last two years. We have decent paying jobs, but we still have student loans we’ll be paying off for another 10 years. We will be buying a home in the next 6-12 months. No kids.
I really do not want a wedding and it is causing a strain in the relationship. It just seems like a waste of money for 4 hours. Based on the type of wedding she wants, we’re looking at a 20k wedding. Not extravagant, but not cheap either. I’d rather save money and go on a nice vacation and elope, but she’s not a fan of that.
I obviously want her to be happy and would agree to a 20k wedding if that is truly what she wanted. After telling her my honest feelings of not being super ecstatic about a wedding, even though I’m ecstatic about her, she told me she doesn’t want a wedding unless I’m genuinely excited for it. Now I think this is her way of guilt tripping me. I don’t feel like I should be sorry for not wanting a wedding.
Any feedback on the situation is appreciated. Should I just suck it up and have the wedding so she doesn’t hold it over my head forever? Anybody not have a wedding and regret it? Anyone not have a wedding and are at peace with the decision? Anyone have a wedding and are still married but regret the wedding?