Sick of the term "gaslighting." People throw it around all the time in arguments and differences of opinion, as if someone who disagrees with you is manipulative and emotionally abusive. Gaslighting is NOT merely disagreeing about something. Two people can strongly disagree about the way they remember something and that is not gaslighting.
Gaslighting is a term based on the old movie in which an abusive husband manipulated situations and then gave alternate explanations to make his wife think she was crazy. He moved objects to make her think she was subconsciously a kleptomaniac. He caused the gas lights in the house to dim and then made her question her perception of that as if she was crazy. That's gaslighting. It's a psychological trick to control someone by intentionally undercutting their self-confidence.
Just because someone disagrees with you about the way they remember something is not gaslighting, unless they knowingly manipulated the situation and then insisted on an alternate explanation to cause the other person to doubt themselves.
People disagree about the way they remember something or interpret the significance of events. That is not gaslighting.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.