Posters over 40, what is your biggest regret?

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  • Ghost of Igloi

    Member since 05/09/2006.

    28,099 posts. Last post 7 hours ago.
    3 years ago 12/25/2020 11:26am EST
    re: Portland Hobby Jogger

    Portland Hobby Jogger wrote:

    Chasing the running dream for too long. I deluded myself into believing that just one more year of financial sacrifice and dedicated training would make me elite. Before long, I was staring at 30 with no meaningful work experience and an outdated education while my college peers that quit competitive running were successful and making good money. That extended adolescent fantasy has hampered my career prospects and delayed my retirement window.

    If you are not elite by age 25, it 's not going to happen. Run/race for fun, start a career, find a mate, and get on with life.

    Pretty much did that. Ran my second Olympic Trials marathon with mediocre success. Time to move on. That was pretty much my approach to life. Still challenge myself, and consider the disappointments part of life.

  • staring at the wall

    Anonymous Poster

    3 years ago 12/25/2020 2:16pm EST
    re: used to be faster and smarter

    divorce

  • used to be faster and smarter

    Anonymous Poster

    3 years ago 12/25/2020 5:32pm EST
    re: staring at the wall

    staring at the wall wrote:

    divorce

    Do you regret getting divorced, or that you married that person in the first place? I’ve always wondered if anyone ever admits they wish they hadn’t divorced and had stayed married and kept working at it, or just accepted being unhappily married.

    Most people say, “oh divorce sucks but I’m better off now”. However, most people who “gut out” a bad/unhappy marriage tell me it was worth it, because they got to spend every holiday with their kids/grandkids and didn’t take the financial hit of divorce

  • registered

    Chief Niwot

    Member since 09/07/2010.

    86 posts. Last post 2 weeks ago.
    3 years ago 12/25/2020 5:42pm EST
    re: Portland Hobby Jogger

    Portland Hobby Jogger wrote:

    Chasing the running dream for too long. I deluded myself into believing that just one more year of financial sacrifice and dedicated training would make me elite. Before long, I was staring at 30 with no meaningful work experience and an outdated education while my college peers that quit competitive running were successful and making good money. That extended adolescent fantasy has hampered my career prospects and delayed my retirement window.

    If you are not elite by age 25, it 's not going to happen. Run/race for fun, start a career, find a mate, and get on with life.

    Take note, Boulderians.

  • Not Steve Jobs

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    3 years ago 12/25/2020 5:51pm EST
    re: sptr

    sptr wrote:

    Not Steve Jobs wrote:

    I was recruited by the USMC as a high school senior and I was close to signing. My mother woke me up to the fact that I'd be expected to shoot people. Looking back, she probably just didn't want me put in harm's way which is the basic fact of USMC life. The experience made me dismiss the military wholly without exploring options like USAF or USCG where I could serve in a more technical capacity. I was then on a slippery slope with academia and family expectations that I didn't clear for years and by that point I was too old to enlist. Like I said, I'm happy where I am now and accept that my path has led me here and I've exercised intention to achieve that. Just would've been nice to skip so much waste.

    I stepped into military recruiting after HS but didn't have the guts to tell my parents, so nothing happened. College, career, family, kids.

    I do regret not giving it a shot. I don't think it would have worked for me, but at least it would have been out of my system. Now I just read and listen to podcasts about the military, wondering.

    Right, a branch with hardcore discipline/conformity culture (USMC, Army, Navy) probably would have been a bad fit for me. That might have been part of my mom's motivation to pump the mental brakes. I don't wonder about military life, just feel I would have benefited from doing something meaningful outside of an academic environment for a few years prior to college to help me with making better decisions and dealing with some adversity without a net. I feel I was really sheltered before I left home and it had some negative unintended consequences.

  • michigander69

    Anonymous Poster

    3 years ago 12/28/2020 8:24pm EST
    re: DanM

    What bands are you thinking of?

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