I saw a Mom yelling at her daughter at the store telling her to shut up. Is it wrong to say something

Idiot daughter and mother. Idiotville

Yep.

She's not wrong to say something,

But whatever happens after that she brought on herself, and there's zero chance the mom will change her parenting behaviour.

In this case the interaction could have been a lot worse treading in those kinds of waters

At some point ya oughta use the belt

No, but l told her it's very dangerous. She wasn't beating the child or threatening the child, so she should mind her own business. That if you do that to the wrong person you can get hurt.

Yes, your friend was wrong. She sounds very annoying.

Sham 69 wrote:

At some point ya oughta use the belt

Anyone who uses a belt (ever) is an incompetent moron (as well as a perfect peasant).

Yeahhhh in this day and age, as hard as it would be for me to hear that, I probably wouldn’t try to intervene because you never know how that person will react. I have stepped in before when a mom was about to hit her daughter (they were sitting behind me on a plane). The mom was actually very thankful bc she was so stressed. But not everyone responds that way.

klo45 wrote:

Yeahhhh in this day and age, as hard as it would be for me to hear that, I probably wouldn’t try to intervene because you never know how that person will react. I have stepped in before when a mom was about to hit her daughter (they were sitting behind me on a plane). The mom was actually very thankful bc she was so stressed. But not everyone responds that way.

Exactly, l told her it wasn't your place to step in. She wasn't beating the child, and you don't know the backstory. No law was being broken, maybe the parents hand book rules where, if there is such thing, but nothing else. She wasn't even touching the child. You can get hurt nowadays doing that.

Yes your friend was wrong. I can't stand people like that

stoplight wrote:

Yes your friend was wrong. I can't stand people like that

Oh wow haha, I actually didn't read your whole post at first... She announced that she is a psychiatrist to justify her point? Your friend sounds like she's the worst

A while back I saw a mom about 40 give her about 20 a good smack to the back of the head at the laundromat

I was about to say something but it happened so quick and I wasn't feeling great so I kind of let it go after I didn't react initially

Anyway a couple minutes later I saw them laughing and joking around and being the best of buddies and I was glad I didn't say anything

Obviously it's different cuz they were both adults and this is little kid with her mom but unless you see something Criminal, then you should definitely step in to protect a child, but in this case I wouldn't think that you can change someone's Behavior especially by being critical

Honestly you could probably do a lot better by trying to say something friendly and understanding about how kids can be difficult at that age but they look like a nice family or something

Anyway I don't think there's anything wrong with speaking your mind and trying to make a difference but family life is complex and you're not going to change something by criticizing them so that's my two cents

Give her daughter who was about 20 years old

Our nation needs parenting classes. If you go you get a reduction in taxes. Also if you don’t go you lose welfare benefits if you’re on them. We need to clean up the trash.

No your friend was not wrong at all.

I have confronted several parents/guardians about how they were treating their child. If she didn't do it, she would always wonder "what if..."

Because of so many unfit parents who were party or rave kids, current or former addicts or alcoholics, or low class people who can't handle stress, coupled with the fact that no background check is required for parenting such that even criminals can have a kid, it becomes society's role to be the village for the parent who is even browbeating their child.

You could choose to be that village or walk away.

Your friend chose to try to be that village. Sometimes it will work, sometimes it won't.

But at least the mom is aware she was acting wrongly in public, whether she accepts it or not.

There was a time my daughter was really acting out. NYC kids will do it in public on purpose to try to get what they want.

I would stay my ground in public & private to be a consistent standard. No matter how I was embarrassed. Eventually, the strat worked.

Where do you hang out? We woukd all like to follow you around and yell at you for doing everything we don't agree with. Maybe you smoke or drink or eat bad. Maybe you have texted while driving. Maybe you don't always treat your friends right. Maybe you are gay and I disagree with that lifestyle. Psychiatrists are weirdos.

Your friend better not actually be a psychiatrist. Anyway, pretty sure that mother beat the snot out of the kid later on and used your friend's intervention as a catalyst.

The original post and replies scream troll post, but I will bite.

She was wrong to comment. If she is actually worried about the child's safety, she needs to call the police. All she did was make the mom more angry and therefore endangered the child even more. When someone is driving aggressively and you honk or gesture at them, do they tend to realize their faults and slow down? Or do they double down and try to make a point?

There is an anecdotal reason I am responding to this post as well: my wife was in the grocery store about 10 years ago with my daughter (then 3 years old), and she was in the same aisle as another woman who was cursing into her mobile phone. Just terrible language, and very loud. My wife asked her to please not curse around our daughter. The lady went ballistic and almost attacked my wife, had a store manager not stepped in to help. They had to call the police, although my wife didn't press any charges.

So if you find yourself in this position, do not engage the person. If you think their child is in danger, make a phone call to the authorities and be prepared to back up your claim.

Or, because it is 2020, you could just film it and post it to Twitter because that is what seems to be popular these days.